Looking back at therapy, I can see how my age affected why I ran. In my 20s, I was scared of how intense everything felt. I’d panic and try to cut the connection completely, thinking that would make the overwhelming feelings go away. I ran because I couldn’t handle feeling that exposed. Now in my 40s, after lots of therapy, I see I was running from myself. The connection felt too intense because it showed me parts of myself I wasn’t ready to deal with. These days I don’t run anymore. I’ve learned to sit with the discomfort. The intensity calmed down once I stopped fighting it and started working on why I was so scared.
I really like this energy sovereignty approach. My TF and I have matching life path numbers (both 11s), and I realized the intense mirror effect meant I was literally carrying their unprocessed stuff AND my own.
Nov. 9th, 2025. Just burned unsent letters for my twin that I wrote in a notebook since 2023, so let’s say I just did a similar ritual. I attempted actual cord cutting at January 2023 too, so I can say it doesn’t work lol.
In my case, life happens. So just like grief, my feelings to my twin has dulled enough to make me finally burn the pages of my feelings this morning.
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I did a cord cutting ritual a couple of nights ago and since then my thoughts of him.have been overbearing and unbearable. I can barely stop crying and keep thinking about “accidentally” bumping into him as I just want to see him. But I know if I do see him and speak to him then it’ll probably make things worse again.
So my question is, do things like this actually work in TF connections? Does anything work to stop the constant thought of them? Does it actually get easier over time? Would the cord cutting work, I just need to be more patient? Does it get worse before it starts to work?
I am really hating on this right now.