Most twin flame pairs spend the majority of their time in some kind of separation until union happens. Physical distance, emotional distance, them being in other relationships, no contact - it shows up in a lot of ways, but you see a lot of the same patterns with most people here.
The feeling that things get worse sometimes is pretty common. The runner/chaser dynamic tends to go in cycles. Roles can reverse; you go through periods of doubt. Some people switch back and forth for a while. There’s no set timeline - it can be anything from days to decades.
The way to cope is by learning and understanding. Understand the journey and understand yourself.
Definitely learn to understand why separation happens to begin with. I know it doesn’t feel like it, but separation is a gift. The runner often feels overwhelmed or unworthy. They might feel they don’t deserve unconditional love because of past traumas or self-doubt. They’re usually dealing with their own healing process, confronting past hurt that affects them now.
Chasers need to do inner work too. Codependency stuff, need for validation, fear of abandonment. The chasing itself can keep them running longer. Focusing too much on the runner instead of your own growth tends to stretch things out.
Some days are brutal and there’s no way around that. But the connection is real even when you can’t physically touch it.