I used to be the chaser and had anxious attachment, but I’ve healed from that. I’m pretty sure I’ve done all the inner and shadow work that I needed to do for the moment, and for that, I’m very thankful for my twin flame journey, separation truly is a gift.
But now that I don’t need him, I’m not even sure why I would want him. My life is full, I am full, I’d love to be in a healthy relationship, but I don’t know why. I wouldn’t know what to do if he comes back, not that I don’t want him to, it’ll just make no difference in my life, so what for?
Have some of you ever felt like that?
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I feel very similarly. I love him, but I don’t need him. I would like to be with him, but not at any cost. My focus is so much on myself now that I don’t think about him or us as much anymore, and I’m surprised I’ve reached that point. Sometimes I feel like I’ve betrayed myself or our love. It’s a whole mix of emotions.
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I feel you, I think I am at this stage in my journey as well. It’s like if she comes back then that’s fine, but if not I’m walking towards what I desire in my life. I have recently found myself wondering if the story has ended, and I know now that it hasn’t truly ended. I feel like the more you move on from the runner twin, the more clarity you and them will have on the whole situation. That’s what I have experienced in the past few months of my journey! I hope you find your way 
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I’d put it this way: why wouldn’t you want your twin?
There’s a big difference between needing and wanting. You no longer need attention, approval, or anything else from your twin, because you’ve pretty much done the inner work. That doesn’t mean you don’t still want him.
I think it’s completely natural that the desire is still there, even though the desperate need has faded.
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This sums up my experience really well. I’ve definitely reached a stage on the journey recently where I’ve started to feel like I’m totally fine without him. That’s come with mixed emotions, especially as I have powerful precognitive insights regarding our future, but I’m feeling a strength and balance I’ve never had in my life (inner work works!!), and I know that’s the point of all of this. I absolutely still want him; I still miss him - sometimes terribly; and I love him unconditionally and always will. But the need and the yearning have faded massively, and that feels like a burden being lifted.
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