In my experience, the knowing comes and goes like waves on a shore. Sometimes it hits with certainty, other times it pulls back into that quiet doubt where you question everything you thought you understood about the connection.
Today I met up with who I thought for so many years was my tf. We have been writing each other regularly for twelve years. We’ve been coming closer to each other in many ways. When he came to visit a couple of years ago it wasn’t comfortable to connect physicaly. He then pulled back, asked me not to manifest or visualise any more. Well he was trying to manifest his soul mate and last year in November he finally met her. I was very hurt and couldn’t deal with the new situation. Last week I wrote and told him I was going to retreat for a while because I wanted to take care of myself and clear my mind. He wrote back that he thought it unnecessary and I should please reconsider my decission. I suggested to meet again because I wanted to see him and talk to him. Today was the day we met. I was sure I’d feel him again and feel the connection. But there was nothing. No thread, no shared energy. I didn’t feel attracted to him in any way. He was almost like a stranger to me. Could I have been mistaken for all these years? I felt the connection the cord, we had the telepathy and the synchronicities. It was all there. Has anyone experienced the same thing?
You absolutely could have.
… Or the energy is there and it just isn’t that crazy separation energy between you at the moment. Nobody else can really tell you for sure.
If only it was that easy 
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If your first thought in the morning is them and the last face you see before you close your eyes at night. If you talk to them in your head all day.
If your world exploded when you first met and everything you thought you knew about the universe changed.
Then you might be a twin flame.
Might.
It’s a lot rarer than social media would have you believe.
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Never asked. Never questioned. Not once. Timing? That was my fear. Not that he would be back. That he wouldn’t make it on time because there was no way I was going to wait indefinitely. I don’t need him to do anything I am meant to do. I just want him. Big difference.
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Haha, I wish I had some magical answer, but I’m probably the worst person to ask because I’ve basically given up on finding a definitive way to know and maybe that’s the only way to actually find out but my current theory, which could be wrong knowing me, is that it just comes down to asking the universe for specific signs and hoping for a clear yes or no.
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Haha okay, you’re asking us to explain the unexplainable. I get it, but you’re never getting the answer you want to hear.
I had that doubt too. Constantly, for the longest time, until one day I just stopped questioning it. I couldn’t find a magic checklist that proved anything. I just couldn’t imagine my life without him. The thought of not being loved by this specific person didn’t compute.
So maybe stop torturing yourself trying to know for sure. Just notice if there’s someone you simply can’t unknow. Just, yeah, be super aware of anyone telling you that they can promise some kind of certainty for a fee.
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The DNOTS was what finally made it click for me. Before that I’d felt this connection that was unlike anything else, metaphysical from day one, but I didn’t connect it to twin flames until separation hit.
And then there was this physical thing where I literally felt nauseous trying to think about dating other people. But I didn’t sit around waiting for certainty. I kept living my life and doing my own thing. The signs revealed themselves along the way. Your experience will look different from mine, but don’t put your life on hold trying to figure it out.
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Sometimes no sign is a sign. Doubt could be your higher self telling you something. Does the person you love so much have to be a twin flame? Would you love them less if they were not? There are so many different higher loves in everyone’s lives. They are all special and important. Remember you have to not fear truth when you ask for it. The truth, no matter the answer, will always set you free. I borrowed that last part from Danielle. This is just another solution to finding an answer. I have been thinking my way out of spiritual questions my entire life. It has came in very handy when this all started. I have taken that advice my whole life. And while many many times it wasn’t what I wanted to hear, I would think and pray and eventually see how much wiser the above is compared to my lowly self. Please Dont shoot the messenger. It’s just a different perspective.
The biggest tell is when something makes zero sense to your mind but perfect sense to your soul.
From my own experience when you’re having doubt about whether or not this person is your TF:
It’s best that you just treat him/her as if they’re NOT your TF. (And time will give you the answer you need.)
Because one of the first lessons you will learn in this journey is to LET GO (of obsession/control), it’s about healing ourselves and balancing our own energy.
Syncs are not conformation that you are a twin flame and anyone telling you otherwise is guiding you down the wrong path. Maybe you weren’t on a spiritual journey before this, but I assure you syncs are and have been everywhere in my life for as long as I can remember. probably yours too if you sit with it for a bit.
OMG yes, the doubt is SO real. Journaling everything with dates actually helped me. I started reading back months later and patterns I never noticed before just kept jumping out at me.
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Start reading back and seeing how much you have changed or not. That is the goal. That is what matters. Look up those patterns for you and your growth see if you need to work on something or if there is conformation you have completed something. When you are in this stage. The number and song stage. It is you and you alone who needs to get better. There are people on here giving advice who most certainly should not be. Unless they have evolved past this they are not twin flames and should not be giving advice. I see one in particular who should absolutely stand down. They are writing things with their ego and smugness. Which enrages me. I sent a post to them but it didn’t make the cut. But I will tell you this. I felt bad after. Like I was too harsh or something. I prayed about it and when I went outside… A big orange butterfly circling all around me. Not the first time. Many, many butterfly moments in the past. The difference of this one? I got it on video with a time stamp to coincide with my post. The universe isn’t playing around.
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