Yep, stopping chasing isn’t a strategy. Not about playing hard to get. Learning how to surrender means learning learning how to truly let go.
This is why the masculine/feminine balance the OP mentioned matters so much. A woman can carry dominant masculine energy, a man can carry dominant feminine energy. The runner usually holds more masculine energy and gets overwhelmed by the intensity, while the chaser holds more feminine energy and feels that pull to pursue. When you balance both within yourself though, when the DF chaser cultivates that grounded, decisive King energy inside, it disarms the whole push-pull. Completely.