Is that how DNOTS can appear too?! I’m starting to think maybe I went through it myself as well then, I thought maybe I just didn’t have it yet, because I thought it was a situation where you’re like screaming and crying and in a lot of physical pain as others have made it out to be. Ive been going through on and off with being unable to sleep, unable to eat, unable to do anything that I normally do or enjoy, and feeling really exhausted and heavy over the months with breaks inbetween.
I’ve been through something similar. Sometimes when we force ourselves into what we think surrender should look like, our body rebels. Like, we cut ourselves off from everything connected to our twin, go completely silent, and suddenly we’re bedbound with zero energy. That’s resistance wearing a surrender mask. When I stopped forcing myself to ‘stay away’ from the things that helped me process (like this community, or my spiritual practices), my energy started flowing again. My body felt different - less depleted than when I was white-knuckling my way through no-contact.
Your physical sickness might be your intuition telling you something about how you’re approaching this separation. There’s a difference between healthy detachment and cutting yourself off from your own support system and healing tools.
Maybe the exhaustion is guiding you toward a gentler approach? One where you honor what your body needs during this time instead of following some rigid ‘rules’ about how separation should look?
I don’t know if this helps, but your body might be trying to tell you something.
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I would try to differentiate whether what you feel is indeed related to separation, or if it’s your twin flame being physically sick.
A couple of days ago for example, I was hit with a strange “flu”. At least the symptoms seemed to match this conclusion. Strong body ackes and pains, sore joints, runny nose, cold chills.
However, one thing that was bizzare was the “stinging” that occured in my right brachial artery not long before the symptoms started. 
Thinking back to my twin flame’s (somewhat obscure to me) medical history, it’s clear this was a case of them undergoing a medical treatment of Radioimmunotherapy (RIT) to manage their ongoing (what I strongly suspect to be because they never told me) lymphoma.
So try to pay attention to the suttle signs and sensations of what is occuring. It’s far from easy, since many of them not pleasant, but all of them offer important insights into a particular situation.
The same pattern, honestly, whenever I try to resist the connection or put up walls, everything in my life kinda starts falling apart. not just physically, but like my whole vibe shifts. Our bodies and circumstances seem to mirror what’s happening energetically with the separation.
I had something similar - couldn’t sleep for weeks and when I did, the dreams were so vivid they’d wake me up. My body just reacted to it in weird ways.
Yep. First month of separation I lost like 8 pounds because I couldn’t eat. Heart palpitations at random times. Thought I was actually dying at one point lol.
This is something I find myself genuinely curious about - the difference between experiencing these symptoms with awareness versus without it. If the runner is feeling the same exhaustion, the same chest tightness, but thinks it’s just burnout or random health stuff… does that make it harder for them to process? Or easier, in some way, because they’re not also carrying the weight of “knowing” what it means?
There’s something both comforting and a little heartbreaking about the idea that they’re somewhere out there feeling this too, just with a completely different explanation for it.
I’m really grateful for the community here, being able to talk about the hardships and truth of the journey, and not just the happy ending.
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I experienced this before, and I went to the doctor and the hospital multiple times, and they said there’s nothing wrong with me. I guess separation isn’t on their checklist.
I get this. When my twin and I went into separation, I felt like I’d been hit by a truck for weeks. The physical symptoms were real - exhaustion, nausea, this weird heaviness in my chest. Our bodies seem to know when something’s off with the connection. I had days where I could barely get out of bed, and I’m usually pretty active.
Hope you’re feeling better now…
Sending you healing energy!