@Rainbosprite78, I reconnected with my TF after 20 years (only then learning that we are TFs), so yes, a long period of no contact doesn’t mean that you are not TFs. To get some clarity, I’d like to point you to this thread: What The REAL Twin Flame Journey Is
Regardless, your story sounds a lttle sad - it seems like you two have always just missed each other.
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To heal core wounds once and for all and to experience the light and dark…
Because the journey prior to our first union were full of soul contacts and karmics who caused us pain. We have to heal that pain so we can have a love that last eternity
Healing is never simple, especially when there’s a lot of unfinished business from our previous life into this life. Grateful for all of the experiences. I learned a lot from this journey.
My TF and I reconnected after 44 years. We were both in unhappy, loveless marriages. Then after 8 months we were in separation again due to our life circumstances. I chased hard but then learned I needed the heal myself. When i stopped chasing and started become more whole myself we reconnected again. It’s just at a friends level for now because he has not done all the work he needs to do to be whole yet. I believe he is getting there. I know we love each other but think he knows as well he’s not ready yet. Right now just grateful for the connection. On another note I did learn from a medium/psychic recently that he and I have had 3 past lives together before this one.
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Because until they are healed they will be mirroring each other’s wounds back at them, and without that healing, they will keep responding with either anxious or avoidant reactions until the work is done. And as is the nature of TF, those reactions will trigger the other in the most precise, painful ways possible to elicit the most suffering ( the doorway to growth)
I also realize most of the time for the runner particularly, they hold onto a “shadow lens” over you to justify their behaviors. View your actions with suspicion and as though each thing you do has an ulterior motive to get/change/push THEM even when you’re doing the exact opposite.
Once the Spiritual Twin heals enough, you recognize it’s pointless to hold onto the Matrix Twin in any way because that lens will not be cracked until you leave completely. Only then is there hope they’ll see the truth of who you were to them, and more importantly, take accountability for the pain they caused you.