That’s where we’re at right now, actually. Thousands of miles between us means friendship is the only connection we can maintain.
My twin flame and I are good friend at the moment. But our friendship seems different than others. Sometimes, I’m confused whether we should start something romantic together or not. Most important I want to trust divine timing 
Okay, so reading this thread, and I need to say something from the other side. I’m the one who pushed for ‘just friends.’ I’m the runner who put us in this situation, and the guilt is… a lot. I genuinely thought friendship would be easier for both of us. Like, if we could just take the pressure off the romantic stuff, maybe things would be calmer. But feelings don’t actually go away just because you slap a different label on things.
Staying friends while I sort myself out might actually be keeping both of us stuck. She’s waiting. I know she’s waiting even though she says she’s not. Some people believe friendship can work as a foundation for union eventually. Maybe. But only if the intent is real growth and not hiding. Which is what I’m doing. Trying to do. I don’t have answers. Just wanted to offer the runner perspective because I rarely see anyone admit this stuff.
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I think it’s hard to remain friends because the emotions are too strong. Far too strong.
Your twin flame is your best friend by far (it feels childish trying to put it like that) but I can’t imagine having any kind of connection with anyone else that feels even close. Platonic or otherwise.
But I can’t imagine being just friends.
I think maybe I’ve been using the idea of friendship as a way to make the intensity feel more manageable? Like if I call it friendship, I can pretend the pull isn’t as overwhelming.
Maybe you can start as friends, but it naturally evolves into lovers as you complete your inner work.
Focus on how your body responds when you’re with them in ‘friend mode.’ Are you calm or constantly on edge? Can you actually relax, or are you performing relaxation? If you’re tense every time you interact, the friendship label might just be a way of ignoring what you actually need.
I think it would be hard to have a friendship with your twin flame, especially if there’s spiritual sex prior to union.
Sometimes it feels like our history is more important than any label. I keep thinking about the first time we laughed together in that little café. Even as just friends, he gets me in a way others never have.
If there are only two options to choose from, to be just friends or to lose contact altogether, I would definitely choose to be friends. I would choose the highest level he wants from me, instead of losing him totally. It is he who is important for me, and not the form of relationship he wants us to manifest. Love is above all forms. And if he wants me out of his life totally, it’s painful but I will accept it, because I love him and I want the best for him, what he sees now is the best for him. In this case, I will love him from a distance, with my soul, above all human social categories.
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It’s way too hard to even try. The emotions are too strong. And the sex is way too amazing to ever just be friends. It will never work in the long term. Maybe no more than a few days at most.
Before anything happened between us, I was happy thinking we could be just friends…for a while. But since separation which we’re 6 months into now, I don’t think I could. I’ve been just friends with people I’ve liked before, and that was difficult. But now I am immersed in this journey, it’s a new level! As much as I want contact and I want to be in his life, just friends would not be sustainable at all for me.
Think its way too intense for that for me anyway being around her is like being in an electric field.
I tried, but the sexual attraction is too much for me. It didn’t seem fair to his current relationship. We started out as friends I think but that could never have lasted like that.