I work with my twin (at a remove, we are in different locations). Have been going through the mill ever since I joined the company as there is quite a vindictive karmic person in the picture.
They’ve both worked at the company longer than me and she is a friend of his outside work, although she is married with two older kids. She tries her level best to act friendly to me in front of him, but when he isn’t copied in on my emails, she ignores them and I have to ask for information repeatedly just to do my job or else go round her and get it elsewhere. The energy around her is sneaky, murky, and generally terrible.
Before becoming aware that he is my twin I couldn’t understand her behaviour at all, but it slowly dawned that she is like my mother. Childish. Jealous. I ended up having to go no contact with my parents due to emotional abuse.
It’s maddening on the occasions when he doesn’t stand up to her, but I’ve never spoken a word against her to him. He’s a very loyal person in general and I know it would just intensify his entanglement. Anyway, it’s his situation to deal with. The strength required for this feels superhuman and I’ve so nearly lost it many times. Never have, though. It does help that I’m wise to her as she may assume I’m not, and at least I know her tricks.
I needed to unburden. If I didn’t work with them both, it feels like it would be easier but I’ve just settled more into my job and earned a promotion. Nor do I want to be away from my twin, as we don’t see each other outside work. It just feels like hell every day.
I’m sorry to bring this negative energy here, but I can’t talk to others about it or at work for obvious reasons. Thank you in advance to anyone who reads this.