I think I know the answer to do this, but are there same sex twin flames?
All of the imagery I see about this is a man and a woman, and we talk about the DM and DF energy.
If you’re in a same sex twin flame dynamic… I want to hear how your story has unfolded. Whether divine timing played out in ways that mirror what I’ve been going through, whether the journey looked completely different. I know there must be some out there.
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Yes, 100%. I know we have a couple of members here at least.
The Twin Flame Collective had to address this a while ago when someone complained about the imagery but the response was straight forward. 90% of the users identified as straight so the imagery depicts a man and woman but I think almost every reputable source has always made the distinction between the DM/DF and gender. Not the same thing.
DM and DF are about energetic polarity. One of you carries more masculine energy (assertiveness, decisiveness, logic-driven) and the other more feminine energy (intuitive, emotionally open, receptive). A man can carry mostly feminine energy and a woman mostly masculine and it doesn’t even necessarily affect their sexuality, which is a whole other conversation people conflate with this stuff.
Gender of the physical body doesn’t change the soul connection. We’ve all been men and women across many lifetimes anyway.
I don’t want to hijack the topic here, but since it was mentioned.
A very small but vocal minority was upset, but we didn’t want to run the risk of upsetting others, so we addressed it quickly.
The irony was that Carla created that piece of content and the second paragraph was entirely bolded and dedicated to making it clear that DM/DF energy or the twin flame journey has no connection to physical gender.
Outrage culture doesn’t tend to read beyond the headlines.
I do wish we could be more diverse in our messaging with gender, race and orientation, but our hands are pretty tied.
We don’t ask now, but the number is probably higher than that at the moment.
We did try a piece of content showing two men, but very quickly, we saw the results of that bombing because it didn’t resonate with the vast majority of our audience. We’re not against representation, but with the state of algorithms, we get actively punished for posting same sex couple imagery.
It’s not because people react badly or even care. It’s just that it isn’t what they are looking for amid a thousand other distractions online.
I know we have same sex members here, I’ve spoken to several in the past. We always try to make it clear when possible that love is love and our choice of imagery was never intended to make anyone feel left out.
So, in case it wasn’t clear: Every member of the twin flame collective believes that there are certainly same sex twin flames and the journey. Gender has nothing to do with it and their path is no different from others.
I suspect (and this is just a hunch) that same sex twin flames are even more common than normal couples. As you said “love is love” and the universe doesn’t care. As already said, we probably went through previous lifetimes as a different gender at least once anyway.
Every social media account and person talking about this depicts a man and woman, but I can understand that is the norm. It makes sense even if I don’t understand the algorithm part of it.
The DM/DF framework is about energetic archetypes. The ‘divine’ part just means the purest form of that energy. So divine feminine is intuition, emotional depth, creativity and surrender. Divine masculine is clarity, action, protection, structure. Everyone has both of these in different amounts.
Somehow, it still gets flattened into gender roles online. Probably similar to people only reading the headlines, they don’t actually know what the terms mean because they’re just latching on to the couple of words they actually read. People used to think Twitter was bad for society giving us only 150 characters and now we have TikTok and Instagram videos.
In my experience is that these polarities actually shift. Some sources say that during the same human experience, the same twin can take on different polarities as they interact with their mirror soul - that it’s part of the process, you’re both working toward balancing those energies within yourselves individually. The whole point is internal balance. You’re not stuck being ‘the DF’ while they’re ‘the DM’ forever.
The thing that hit hardest for me, though, was that my twin and I come from completely different backgrounds. Different countries, different first languages, big age gap. 3D challenges like this add some complexity but I don’t think anyone’s journey is harder or easier because we’re gay, straight or whatever in between. I think we all walk slightly different variations of the same path.
More common than people think. Same-sex twin flame pairings, I mean - the collective is definitely shifting toward recognizing that these connections transcend physical form.
One soul carries the masculine energy, the other holds the feminine. The bodies don’t really factor in. True unconditional love was never about 3D labels, though the traditional imagery really had us boxed in for a while. If you dig into threads here and shared experiences, you’ll find a lot of people living this exact dynamic.
One of my first introductions to explaining the journey when I began my awakening was a same sex couple already in union. I came from a very closed off community where the previous generation wouldn’t have understood the idea of being homosexual but this couple was the perfect example of love to me.
The masculine wound healing couldn’t hide. Being in a same-sex dynamic meant the unconventional parts of myself became the actual curriculum - with another woman, there were no traditional relationship roles to tuck it behind.
It just surfaced directly.
Adds another layer to the 3D (depending on where you are from), but I do agree it is no different. I think every source worth listening to always refers to the DF and DM energy as a 5D energy anyway and has always been clear that it doesn’t mean gender.
Even the awful TFU cult made it clear it had nothing to do with gender… they just took it to an extreme by getting people to identify as a different gender, which is a whole other problem. I don’t think a same sex couple has it harder or easier (anyone trying to over dramatize it is probably dealing with limerance anyway).
It’s the same thing. The universe doesn’t care what labels you want to call yourself during this lifetime.
I think twin flames can show up in ways we would never expect. You might identify as one sexual orientation all your life, but then your TF arrives and awakens you to more than just the spiritual journey.
I’ve never even thought to question this. Of course there is.
I would maybe question it if you were hoping that the other person was going to change their sexuality. Yes, it might happen and I’m sure it has but I can also see a situation where people in limerance with someone convince themselves that they’re a TF who will “change their mind”.
Just be careful. If you have to question this, there’s probably a reason for it.
Sure, but the thing is I am confident that they would look and sound extremely similar in terms of their build, voice, hair, and style.
The body is just the vessel. The soul recognizes the connection no matter what form it takes, and for me that was unexpected because I had never even heard of twin flames before her. Identified as straight my whole life, so… yeah. The depth of that attraction sent me searching for answers I never expected to need (to put it mildly).
And the masculine/feminine dynamic - we don’t really have strict polarity. We both carry a mix of both energies, and somehow the puzzle pieces just fit. Not sure I can explain it better than that.
Separate orientation from attachment style. Fear of intimacy can genuinely look like ‘I’m not into this gender’ when closeness triggers come up. Big difference. Self-acceptance leads to clearer communication, but that part takes time.
Decide early what ‘outness’ means for each of you (who knows, when, why). Mismatched timelines there create this avoidable push-pull that just drains everyone.
I’ve seen it used as a runner as an excuse to bolt and go into separation. They can suddenly be in denial about their own sexuality on top of the connection, and those two things feed each other in this awful loop that just keeps tightening. She can dismiss everything she felt between us as ‘confusion’ or ‘a phase.’ The world will back her up on that. Every time. The universe handed her an extra escape hatch, which, cool, thanks universe.
I don’t really think this is any different from cis couples, they’ll find a reason in the 3D to run no matter what. Straight twin flames at least don’t have to sit there watching their person rewrite the entire orientation of the connection just to avoid facing what it actually is.