The path’s really about discovering our true nature. You can’t come into union with your twin before you’ve been to inner union and that means you need to get through your Dark Night of the Soul. The ego purging is brutal, I’m not gonna lie, but I’m starting to see it might actually be leading somewhere good. Shedding that illusion might be exactly what needs to happen.
I know of at least one couple that went through DNOTs and it was really rough looking but afterward the two of them were back together. I think maybe the trap there might be people trying to force it to happen when you’re not ready though. Have to avoid that.