The pinball machine thing. Yeah. I know that loop so well - angry, then searching for the mirror, then reminding yourself about the soul level stuff, then swinging right back to anger because the 3D action still happened and it still hurt. It’s genuinely exhausting. I don’t think anyone who isn’t living in this situation can grasp how much mental energy gets burned just trying to process a single interaction.
One thing I want to flag though. The mirroring piece is real but it can get misused in a way that does actual damage. Like if he does something careless or sabotaging toward your career, the mirror isn’t necessarily about that exact action. Your twin reflects your feelings, not the specific behavior.
So if what he did makes you feel undermined or not valued, the mirror might be pointing to where YOU are undermining or not valuing yourself. That distinction really matters. Otherwise you just end up taking ownership of his bad behavior, which… no.
The ego-driven 3D stuff from his side tracks with what a lot of people describe about the DM still operating from a separation-based consciousness state. Ego, emotional triggers, patterns that keep both twins stuck. A lot of times the DM doesn’t even realize the role they’re playing in it. Doesn’t excuse real harm though. About leaving the job - there’s a trap in twin flame thinking where we assume removing ourselves means we failed or we’re running from the lesson. Protecting your 3D life, your stability, your career, your mental health - that IS the inner work.
Spiritual bypassing is so real in this community. People avoid actual boundaries because they think the connection means they should just endure everything. Ignoring your 3D responsibilities actually delays things. Your career matters. You matter in 3D too.