I’m new here. Trying to make sense of everything and find a way forward. Met my tf some months ago in the office. Eyes locked and everything changed. He’s much younger than me. Very intense. Nothing physical happened but we have chatted a little when the chance came up, just small talk really scared to mention anything else. Lots of sexual tension and overwhelming. I can feel him touching me telepathically when we’re apart. Lots of energy and heart chakra pressure. I think we’re both kind of introverted so breaking the ice is tough. Sometimes we can’t speak. Want to touch him or something we just stare into each others eyes and smile at each other but it feels like there’s a blockage. I know I have things to work on to heal. Any advice gratefully received thanks.
My advice woun’t be popular, I know, but I suggest talking to your HR department (if you have one at your workplace) or at least gather information.
Some employers might be supportive, but most have strict rules regarding workplace relationships and romances in order to keep things professional and respectful for everyone.
Rule of thumb, nothing “physical” when you’re “on the clock”. You’re at a workplace to work!
My work is fine with employees having relationships, there’s even been a few marriages between people who worked here! I think it’s just the feeling stuck and unsure what to do. Maybe as a man he’s scared of taking things further idk.
Hi. My TF is my coworker, and he is 5 years younger than me, with a different religion. My workplace doesn’t have a strict rules on dating, but I think you should tread it carefully. I agree with what @Scorpio said, this connection is delicate, and not everybody will understood.
From what I experience this past two years, a connection could be destroyed by an outside intervention, and the worst of it for me is a gossip-mongers. We stay profesional, no physical contact. But, after we caught dating once, outside work hours, at the weekend, all hell break loose. People got curious, they pry, fishing any information that they could get. They start asking around, how long and how far we go, how committed we’re, how’s the marriage plan or downright told me that it would be better if we stopped it right now, because we won’t ever make it. They pressed my TF for answer, too. I think he got annoyed by that.
Looking back, I’m being careless, too. I don’t know what is twin flame yet. I saw it as a normal connection, that feels different from my connection before. So, I failed to recognize people that truly care with people that have an ulterior motive. I lay myself bare toward the wrong person, and it was worsening the situation. Add a coworker that turns out having a huge crush toward my TF, and she kind of gaslight and blame me, because in her own mind, I’m the cause of my TF discomfort at the office.
So, I think, aside of professionalism, you should care about the social environment within your workspace. Coincidentally, my coworkers is very delightful when it came to gossiping. Unfortunately, when they heard information ‘A’, they could summed it up to be information ‘B’ 
I have no intention to fear-mongering you, but please be cautious, don’t rush it, and make sure that you could rely on the people around you.
I would still confirm. Because double standards do exist. Even if things may not appear to be that way.
It’s happened to me and plenty of others. And it’s not likely to ever completely stop.
The boss “chatting up” your twin flame, perfectly fine. You doing the same thing, you get a writen warning. 
(ask me how I know…)
Absolutely I would be careful. And there’s nowhere we could be physical really it’s a big open plan office nowhere to go apart from the toilets and that would be very risky and gross. Recently we bumped into each other in the hall and were staring into each others’ souls for ages without speaking. It felt super intimate and I had visions of someone coming through and catching us doing that, which felt bad enough. I don’t think there’s any danger of a manager going after him, they’re all married and older I just couldn’t see it. I wouldn’t have gone for him myself before this, he’s too young but here we are lol. I will be professional but would like to get to know him better I don’t even know if he’s single or anything. I wish I was more confident in myself and could just chat him up. I get frustrated with myself and impatient, not great. So much to work on.
Oohhh.. I know the feeling of accidentally bumping with each other. It is as if you got sucked into their eyes. Nobody would be ready for that, even though we think that we’re ready for any form of situation that might occur, and take your time to know your supposed to be TF’s character.
So I do work with mine but we have our own office and she basically is HR. The only time she’ll raise a complaint with her immediate supervisor (me) is when she really does have a deadline.
Back on topic, however, a lot of “normal” relationships come out of workplaces, and since it’s one of the leading places for adults to meet each other, it probably makes sense that there’s an opportunity to meet your twin flame there as well.
I think you’ve been given some good advice here though. You don’t want to create a problem for you (or him), and the workplace can create all sorts of short-term obstacles.
Maybe a good first step would be getting out of the office and spending some time in a more personal setting?
The workplace situation is genuinely one of the hardest configurations. There was just that post about meeting them on a dating app, which at least then you know what their 3D self is looking for. To be honest, in this age, I think most people either meet at work or through apps.
Your soul recognition moment you described sounds textbook first contact, but you do have some obstacles to get through from the first encounter as well. The 3D has all sorts of boundaries normally, the workplace can add a few more. I do have to ask, have you read this?
There are a few people here who have left their jobs because the situation they found themselves in was too hard. They went through a separation with their twin and the workplace kept them in proximity.
The workplace twin flame dynamic creates this brutal paradox. You go through the most intense spiritual connection of your life in an environment that demands complete professionalism. They’re also faced with extra blocks because of workplace expectations on top of the usual blocks.
It’s not a bad thing, but it does come with challenges, just like any other place you meet.
Many people in this situation ultimately leave their jobs. Where we meet them often speaks to an area we need to work on ourselves. The positive frame: even difficult workplace situations serve growth by forcing you to learn boundaries in the hardest circumstances possible.
Working with your twin at the office adds another layer to this whole thing. You don’t get space to process when you need it and you have physical blockers more than usual. You need to get out of the office IMO.
Yes sucked into his eyes that’s it. I managed a hey but he couldn’t speak. That’s true a lot of people meet at work now and as I said I can think of 3 marriages there’s likely more plus some long term relationships (I observed one of those starting off, could totally tell by their body language so I wonder if people can feel anything between TF and I when we’re together). At the start I would flip out when he was near, I couldn’t eat when he sat right next to me or walk past him without going to pieces. I think it’s the magnetism but at the time had no clue wtf was happening. He’s helped with that (no idea how aware he is but he just knew I needed help) and next time we sat at different tables until things calmed down. Now I’m fine if he approaches me but don’t trust myself to approach him yet.
That would be a good idea to get out of the office but no opportunity has come up yet. He also leaves early to get his train home.
I’ll need to read the dating app post. Yes it’s just my luck to meet him at work lol. I’m glad I’m getting divorced from my husband now or else that would be another thing to contend with. The funny thing is my ex is quite a spiritual person too and probably someone who I could tell about this and he’d get it, not really appropriate though.
I’ll read that other link too appreciate it. It’s all so new and there’s so much info out there… some is conflicting other stuff is a bit too deep for me just now.
Will see how it goes. I’m being careful not to come on too strong. We’ve had a tiny bit of message contact I just said it had been nice to speak with him at our event and he said the same back. I want him to see me as approachable and safe if possible. As for the work thing again yes this in itself might cause a problem so one of us might have to leave at some point. I’ve been there many years and he’s been less than a year. I’d not seen him up close until the day we had our eyelock.
I’m going on holiday now so won’t see him for a couple of weeks, I think this is a good thing give some breathing space. Same thing happened after we first met, he went overseas for a few weeks. I missed him but it’s only grown stronger. So will see how it goes, intending on having lots of self care, meditation and journaling whilst I’m away. Been getting lots of heart chakra sensations and can feel him touching me as I type so that’s comforting.
In my case, before the gossip spread, no body realize that we got close, only a handful of people that coincidentally rather close to me. He coming to work about two times a week, so he rarely spending time at the office, too. And, we both a high school teachers, so, there is some restrictions and some moral compasses following this profession, especially around the workplace.
Talking about the ‘magnetism’ 
It’s already more than a year of not contacting each other, and honestly I kind of afraid if I accidentally bumping into him. The last time it happen, I feel my knees buckled under me, I got lost into his eyes, I think time stopped for a moment ( I use to think that this situation could only happen in fiction). For sure, I need hours to recollect myself. So, I’m afraid I can’t handle this huge energy if we bumped into each other.
Oh, and wish you have a wonderful vacation, too.
I get how the workplace thing complicates everything.
What gets me is how strong the feelings are when there’s been barely any physical contact. Just eye contact and short conversations, but the pull is stronger than anything I’ve felt before. It doesn’t make sense but the feeling is real, which is why navigating this at work is tricky.
I think perhaps a couple of people might have noticed something maybe but might just be my paranoia. Yes we do hybrid working so he’s maybe there once or twice a week, that’s increased from before this all happened. Oh you would need to be careful being teachers kids will gossip too. I get the knee buckling thing too but have had that with other guys so at the start I was completely unaware how different this was, despite the eyelock I was in denial for a while.
Thank you, looking forward to getting away! In the city that I’m leaving from and already seen his name various places and something about twins etc.
Yes the feeling is so strong. I remember after that first encounter he was away for several weeks then he returned and bam! The staring, the need to be near me. He ignored 2 closer seats so he could sit next to me at lunch and was leaning in. I was going crazy. The sexual tension is something else too. I guess we’re still in that first bubble love stage even though nothing physical has happened. He’s cute too.
What if you’re there because the professional boundary is protecting you both while you figure things out? Sometimes separation is more about emotional detachment even when they’re right in front of you.
I understand that feeling. Some days the intensity of being near him but not being able to really connect makes me want to just walk away from the job, even though I love the work itself.
If someone call out his name or talk about him, after a year, my heart still vigorously skip for a beat. I love this job, this is my calling, and because I am a civil servant, it’s not easy for me to changing workplace. Then, the aftereffect is my hand would feel weak, like I just give a performance on the stage.
I mean, if it’s really that kind of connection, you’d both feel it pretty quickly. Usually doesn’t need much explaining when it happens.
Agree with you, totally agree with you. My best friend once told me that I don’t need to try to make her understand the nature of the relationship, as long as I understand and not losing myself on the way. That wise girl. People doesn’t need to understand, it is between you and the said person.