Someone shared this with me recently, and I think it probably fits here.
She said when no contact started with her twin, she expected the connection to fade into the background. I could have guessed what she was about to say next. Of course, it became louder.
“Right at the beginning” she said, “I started feeling his energy so clearly. Mostly at night. Sometimes, waking up, looking around for him because he was right there in my dream.”
She struggled with sleep like that for weeks. They’d stopped texting daily. Their social media interactions disappeared.
But the connection just found another way through. So she just tried harder. I think a lot of us probably start by doing this kind of thing.
She blocked him on every platform. Deleted photos of them together. Removed him from her contacts. She tried a cord-cutting ritual with the last photo she had… then ripped it up.
And woke up that night feeling him louder than ever before. The more she tried to push him out, the stronger it pulled.
(She was surprised by this, but again, I could have guessed that was going to happen).
We use the term “no contact” in this community, but I don’t think it’s ever actually accurate.
You can block someone’s number. Unfollow their accounts. Delete every photo. But you can’t block a soul connection. You can only stop resisting it.
And I know that can sound confusing. Blocking and deleting them probably felt like surrender to her. Like letting go. But there is a huge difference between surrendering and forcing something away.
Surrender is releasing the outcome. Trusting the journey even when you can’t see where it’s going. It’s soft. Open.
What she was really doing was the opposite. It was clenched, forceful and trying to control the connection by pushing it out.
This is the thing that moves you through separation. It’s the thing that actually makes a difference and lets people escape months or even years of never-ending separation.
Unfortunately, it’s also one of the hardest things to actually do.
Everything we’ve learned about “moving on” from regular relationships tells us to cut ties. Create distance. Stop looking. People will literally say things like “move on” and “get over them” because that’s the only way they can understand a relationship.
The only frame of reference people normally have.
But twin flames don’t work that way. Normal understanding doesn’t work. Normal rules don’t apply. The connection isn’t maintained through texts or photos. It lives somewhere deeper.
And what you resist… persists.
Change doesn’t come from blocking harder. It comes from understanding the journey. Understanding what’s actually happening between you two.
Understanding why you are on the journey. What it takes to move onward.