Don’t judge me (please!) I know I just posted about being happy being friends with your twin flame… but has anyone tried being friends with benefits? (FWB).
I don’t think the timing is right for us to be in union, but we can’t be without each other, and the sex with your twin flame is amazing (what a sync this thread was just bumped as well).
Is this a good temporary measure? Could it help or will it slow us down?
No judgment about it. but I think you already know this is probably going to slow things down
OK, so I get where you’re coming from. Not here to judge.
What I’d say is pay attention to what your body is telling you during this FWB situation. It doesn’t sound like a very conscious decision, period. Sex is SACRED, our bodies are SACRED. Fuck Buddies are not in alignment with your highest good. I am not judging you either. You have free will and can do what you want, but this doesn’t sound like a healthy choice to me.
Just be honest with yourself about whether the physical stuff you’re experiencing is expansion or contraction.
No judgment here. We’ve all been in weird spaces with our twins.
I don’t know why twin flame communities can be so conservative and anti-sex so much of the time. I saw something yesterday where someone said “My DM asked for nude photos” and all the comments where people gatekeeping and telling her there was no way she could possibly be a twin flame. Nonsense.
Some people just haven’t been laid in a decade and want to inflict it on others.
Personally, I probably wouldn’t do this if you want to play the long game. If you think there’s a chance you could be in true union this lifetime then I wouldn’t do anything that could slow that down. Otherwise go for it.
Oh man, no judgment at all!
The physical intimacy isn’t just physical - it’s spiritual, energetic, connected to your heart chakras. But trying to stay ‘just friends’ or in this case FWB with your twin can be really intense because the energy doesn’t care what you call it. The connection is always there whether you’re “official” or not. Some people say it’s actually torture for both twins because the runner feels guilt and the chaser feels frustrated being so close yet not in full union.
Maybe the FWB thing is just another form of staying connected without fully committing to the work? Or maybe not. Every twin connection is different and honestly I’m not sure anyone really knows how this stuff works.
I’ve learned that sometimes the best thing we can do is step back and let things unfold in their own time, rather than forcing something that keeps us comfortable but stuck.
Thinking about a friends-with-benefits phase in these connections - the main thing is whether the setup actually helps you both or just makes things messier. Any configuration tends to bring up whatever’s unresolved, so the real question is whether this form helps you be more honest with yourself or encourages you to downplay what you actually want.
When you imagine this FWB arrangement six months from now, do you see yourself feeling more settled, or more attached and reactive? That inner picture might tell you something useful about whether this structure actually works for where you both are right now.
The twin flame connection isn’t about short-term validation. I found that out the hard way, but sometimes that’s how we learn, I guess. Choosing yourself is definitely the key to healing all the blocks. It’s definitely part of the process, though most twins do go through that stage. It’s more of a test to see if you will settle for less or stand on your worth, and when you do that, that’s when the divine masculine meets you on your highest timeline effortlessly.
As someone who feels everything with my twin, please be prepared - physical intimacy makes the energetic cord between you so much stronger. I could literally feel his emotions radiating through me for days afterward, even when we were miles apart. The desire to merge physically, emotionally and spiritually is always there, but not in a disrespectful way to the bodies.
If you’re already empathic with your twin, that merging sensation can become overwhelming fast.
Every twin flame experience is different, but I’d say honesty and respect matter a lot if you’re in a friends-with-benefits situation. Keep communication open and don’t neglect your own life - hobbies, self-care, whatever keeps you grounded.
Personally, I think it sounds like a game with your heart that you won’t win in the long run.
My twin literally proposed FWB because he couldn’t face what we actually are to each other. Called it ‘keeping things uncomplicated’ while his whole energy screamed the opposite. I know everyone’s journey is different, but the surreal depth of connection and emotion my TF and I have, and the intense sharing of energy we experience during intimacy, would never allow for something like this.
You can feel their real emotions, but they won’t acknowledge them verbally. Be prepared for that possibility.
I tried a FWB dynamic with my person when we were in a similar place - knew we weren’t ready for union but couldn’t stay away. The physical pull was insane. I think if your love language is physical touch, then that is perfectly fine. It’s healing. Your heart already knows what to do.
The FWB thing might work for a bit, but in my experience with long-distance twin connections, the emotional intensity usually makes it hard to stay casual. Deeper feelings tend to come up anyway. If you feel that this would help your journey. Do it… just remind yourself that there must also be a part of you that needs attention, why you want to do it.
Just be real with yourself about whether this is actually working for you or if it’s keeping you both stuck.
FWB might work temporarily, but just be careful it doesn’t keep you both stuck in limbo. Maybe this is yours and your twins’ shit to heal. Just remember, our bodies are temples so try not to knock them down or start a fire.
Thanks everyone, I appreciate the points of view 
Watch your sacral chakra closely with this. The sacral governs sexuality and emotional flow, and FWB can send it into overdrive while blocking your throat chakra because you’re not speaking your full truth.
When my kundalini was moving during a similar phase, the energy kept getting trapped between these two centers. Manifested as lower back pain and this weird inability to voice what I needed from him. The energy wants to rise, but it needs clear channels.
I saw a story (not my own) where a couple actually met like this. They started as a FWB they arranged online but the moment they actually met they knew that wasn’t going to last.
This FWB phase might actually be written into your soul contract. Before incarnating, you both agreed on certain experiences to trigger specific growth, and sometimes that includes unconventional relationship stages that look messy from where we’re standing but serve a purpose.
I’ve seen a lot of people be judgmental over this (that other group is so sexually repressed it stuns me), but I do agree, I think they’re just angry because they can’t get laid.
The question is whether this arrangement fulfills what you agreed to or if it’s more of a detour from lessons you’re meant to learn separately first. Spending time meditating on your soul contract might give you some clarity on whether this is the right timing or just a comfortable holding pattern.
Honestly? Just live. Experience it fully. Spirit didn’t hand you a rulebook for how twin flame arrangements are supposed to look. If this feels right for where you both are now, then let it be what it is. Stop letting spiritual perfectionism dictate every move.
Anyone who tries telling you what you can or can’t do with your life is very unhappy with their own.
I’m going to be that person and ask… before you decide on FWB, are you sure this is your twin and not a really intense soul connection or trauma bond? Sometimes the urge to settle for FWB comes from fear of losing them, and if that fear is rooted in old wounds rather than actual soul recognition, it can mess with how you read the connection.
I’m not trying to gatekeep and if you’re sure you’re sure. I’m not saying it’s not possible to have a FWB situation with your TF but it’s worth thinking about.