The irony is thick with people doing this. People are gatekeeping a spiritual concept that’s supposed to be about unconditional love and growth.
Part of the problem is that people conflate intensity with validity. Like if your connection isn’t turbulent enough, dramatic enough, painful enough - then it can’t be ‘real.’ The runner/chaser dynamic gets romanticized to the point where people think if there’s no drama, there’s no flame. That’s backward.
Labeling of anyone questioning or exploring as ‘unawakened’ or ‘not ready.’ Questioning the core tenets is discouraged and people who do get ostracized. That’s cultish behavior.
A genuine twin flame connection involves being able to be your authentic self without fear of judgment. You can be open at the soul level. If the community doesn’t allow for that same openness to explore and question - then it’s failing the very principles it claims to protect. You’re right that people going through an awakening need support. When someone is just discovering these concepts, they’re in a vulnerable place spiritually. Running into someone who seems welcoming but turns out to be harsh and critical - that can push people away entirely.
Those of us who’ve been at this for a while should be holding space, not holding court.