I hear what you’re saying, and I understand the intention behind it. Truly. But speaking as someone who has had to unlearn a lot of generational patterns around tolerating harm in the name of ‘understanding’ others - there’s a difference between compassion and enabling.
Part of healing trauma is learning that it’s not our job to fix everyone who causes harm. That belief - that we must absorb, process, and transform other people’s wounds for them - is often rooted in patterns many of us inherited. We were taught that our worth comes from how much we can endure, how much we can ‘help’ people who hurt us.
Boundaries aren’t exclusion. They’re protection. And a community that prioritizes the safety of vulnerable people isn’t a ‘club’ - it’s a space that’s actually doing the work. Some people need to do their own inner work before they can participate in collective spaces without causing harm.
I don’t think anyone here wants to punish anyone. But we also can’t heal in environments where we’re constantly being re-wounded. That’s not a sanctuary either. Sometimes the most loving thing - for everyone involved - is to say ‘not here, not right now.’
I’ve said what I needed to say already, and just as before, I don’t expect many will agree with me.
But for the record, I never once mentioned anything about tolerance. In fact, what I advocate for is confrontation through mature and rational discussion.
I believe virtually all conflicts and disagreements can be resolved in this manner.
However, if this community is outright obsesed with removing these types of individuals to maintain its “peace”, then one would at least hope this action would be done as a last resort, after all other options have been exhausted. But who really knows.
The Community Guidelines don’t go all that deep into this aspect. We’re simply told to “Trust that appropriate action will be taken when needed.”
While I personally trust and have faith in the moderators of this forum, my confidence in them would grow even more, if there was additional transparency into how instances of community members being attacked and invalidated are addressed. Is there a standard procedure or course of action that is taken in these situations?
FFS it happened to me again. Some random felt the need to jump on a comment I made (not here) from almost 3 weeks ago that consisted of a couple of lines of info and told me I’m not a twin! Seriously, do I need to do a disclaimer chronicling my entire journey to date when I want to comment on a post?! I swear some people are just shit stirring when they do this, y’know when I see a post or comment and I don’t agree or have all the info I just scroll on.
Maybe I need to grow a thicker skin but I’m a sensitive person anyway and feeling vulnerable right now. Missing my twin, missing my grandmother who died just before Christmas need to have a cry now I’m home.
Is it just me or is there more people saying things like this idea of “you ARE your twin flame”? I just read this a moment ago and I feel like it’s becoming more common.
You are your twin flame, your twin flame is you, literally you, you want unity, guess what, you already are.
Now, what they might be saying is what this thread is talking about. The essence of twin flame, the source and this idea of being a “split soul”.
But when you’re using this as a strange gatekeeping practice to tell people that they’re somehow “doing their twin flame journey wrong” it seems so strange.
Okay, so at the higher levels, you are connected… so it’s just okay to not be in union in the 3D?
I’m trying not to be judgmental here, but this just reeks of “I can’t have union in the physical, so you shouldn’t even be trying”.
If your goal is this idea of “inner union” and being happy about separation, I think that’s fine. More power to you. But some of us do reach union. Some of us are doing the inner work and we’re going through all this because we believe union is the point of this.
I have no issue with anyone who chooses to settle and accept the fact they won’t reach union in this lifetime… but can we stop telling other people that they shouldn’t be trying.
All I know, is that I choose me over any connection, no matter how painful that is to do. I have done extensive work and have reached inner union, I have returned home to myself, I am sovereign. His journey is his journey. As a soul, you cannot carry or wait for anyone else. Come home to yourself and surrender the journey to God Source. Trust God, connect with yourself and God. Heal your own heart and soul. What I have learnt, is that you have to learn the lessons, clear up old karma, and close the loop. Become whole within yourself. If they are your divine counterpart, they will go through the process once you reach inner union and you integrate and embody the lessons. It’s definitely not easy. The shedding is real. Definitely a death and rebirth transformation process. No one can tell you what is right for you, but I can only tell you my experience and my truth. I wish you well on your journey, go easy on yourself, love yourself into wholeness, and definitely don’t abandon yourself for anyone, even your TF.
