Asking directly might actually slow things down. Once I stopped needing to hear everything out loud and just went with what I was picking up on, my TF started telling me stuff without me even asking.
Sometimes, when we’re too focused on getting confirmation in the physical world, it blocks things from happening naturally. Actions speak louder than words anyway.
When it comes to talking about twin flame experiences like the obsessive thoughts, dreams, and synchronicities with your person, everyone handles it differently. Some people get confirmation that their twin feels the same stuff. Others get nothing back or their twin changes the subject.
Mine admitted feeling “something weird” between us but then blocked me everywhere the next day. Wasn’t ready to handle it. Unblocked me a few days after that without being able to talk about it.
I’ve never mentioned anything but after we had the eye lock the first time (and I’d subsequently caught him staring at me and smiling to himself) I attempted to chat to him as he was leaving for the night. He got extremely flustered and said he was late for his train. I wasn’t even going to mention what happened but that was it. He must have been freaking out. He always seems happy when he sees me now but we’ve never mentioned anything (almost 4 months in).
When I finally asked, they admitted feeling the intensity too. Not in the same ways exactly, but they couldn’t explain the synchronicities either.
They said our connection felt different from anyone else they’d known. That was enough confirmation for me to stop obsessing and just focus on my own life.
Yeah this happened to me too. I mentioned the synchronicities once - we kept posting the same quotes or listening to the same songs at exactly the same time without talking. He got super defensive and asked what I was trying to say, so I just dropped it.
But then after a while, he started pointing them out himself.
He’d send me screenshots of us doing the same things. Once I mentioned it that first time, he couldn’t stop noticing it. We both got pretty overwhelmed and needed some space. When we reconnected later, he started using ‘twin’ references in conversation. Not directly talking about it, but kind of acknowledging it sideways. We both know what’s going on but neither of us wants to say it out loud because that would make it real.
I think sometimes they do feel it but just can’t handle it yet. The deflection is probably them protecting themselves from something that feels too intense. Avoidant attachment meets cosmic connection, basically.
When I finally worked up the courage to ask during one of our calmer moments, they admitted feeling the same pull and intensity. They were terrified of how overwhelming it all was.
That actually helped me understand what I needed to do. I stepped back, gave them space, and started dating other people while we both figure this out separately.
Oh, I definitely haven’t brought this up with mine. Pretty sure if I started talking about telepathy and synchronicities, he’d just slowly back away while maintaining eye contact, you know?
He’s in full marathon mode right now anyway. The guy is practically breaking Olympic records with how fast he’s running from this connection. I imagine trying to explain the whole twin flame thing to someone who isn’t spiritually aware would go about as well as explaining quantum physics to my cat. Lots of blank stares and probably some concern for my mental health.
So no confirmation here, just me and my synchronicities while he pretends none of this exists.
I drafted something similar more times than I can count and every time I stopped myself because…what’s the point? If they really felt it too, they’d know. They wouldn’t need me to spell it out.
If you send it, you can’t take it back. And if they confirm it…then what? You’re both just sitting there knowing it’s real but still stuck in the same patterns. Sometimes not sending the message is the kindest thing you can do for both of you.
My twin and I have always known from Day One, even if we didn’t have the words or labels to express it or didn’t consciously understand it. We were both instantly aware of our special connection, and were like best friends for a decade before circumstances allowed us to admit our feelings to ourselves and one another, and be in a romantic relationship.
The jokes about us being “brain twins” or “two chunks off the same space rock” have been present for so long I can’t remember a time when we weren’t joking about it. We would even would make off-hand quips about being telepathic. When we got together, it became immediately clear to us that these were more than just jokes. We probably already knew, but it hit us that it was very, very real. We never labeled it as such, but we are consciously aware and love it.
That said, we are in a very tumultuous, no-contact separation phase right now. Knowing is a bit of a comfort, but I’m not sure it changes much. Have faith, either way. Not just in your twin, but yourself. 
The ‘slip ups’ are such a huge tell, aren’t they? When someone claims they don’t know what you’re talking about but then weeks or months later casually drops something that proves they’ve been turning it over in their mind this whole time…
I’ve noticed this pattern too. The deflection is often stronger than an outright denial would be. If they truly didn’t feel anything, they’d probably just say so and move on.
I haven’t directly asked mine about the symptoms, but he does reveal things indirectly when he’s comfortable. Recently he started opening up in ways that confirmed what I’ve been feeling - not because I asked, but just naturally in conversation. He’ll say things that mirror exactly what I’ve been experiencing, sometimes word for word, without realizing we’re describing the same thing. It’s strange hearing someone describe your own inner world back to you when they don’t know that’s what they’re doing.
I’ve found that staying quiet and just listening works better than asking directly. When I don’t push for confirmation, he seems more comfortable sharing what’s actually going on with him.
Has anyone considered their TF might be on these same forums asking identical questions?
This has definitely crossed my mind before. But if he actually finds his way here one day, it will truly be confirmation that all this is happening for both of us, and that he perhaps is finally starting his own healing journey…which is how I found myself on these forums too. I’m sure if he saw or read my posts, he would immediately know who I am.
Try using metaphors instead of TF language. I asked mine if he ever felt like we were ‘two instruments playing the same song in different rooms’ and he immediately got it.
Sometimes regular words work better than spiritual terminology.