For those who’ve asked their TF about the symptoms (the obsessive thoughts, dreams, telepathy and synchronicities etc…), did they admit to experiencing anything similar?
I keep wondering if they’re going through the same intensity or if it’s completely one-sided.
Would love to hear if anyone got actual confirmation vs just deflection or silence.
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She’s a lot more spiritually ahead of me… so I’m not sure I want to know. 
We didn’t go through separation though, so I think a lot of things we’ve been experiencing together.
By asking something like this though you basically are telling your twin flame what you both are and that should probably be done carefully.
You don’t want to spook them if they’re not ready for it!
The vulnerability it takes to even ask it is huge. The answers people get are all over the map. Some get that clear confirmation, and it feels like everything clicks into place. For others, it’s silence or confusion, which can be really hard.
I think probably the biggest thing that matters here is why you want to ask them. As @Dasbopster said, you are basically breaking it to them, and (depending on their own spiritual path) they might not be ready to hear this yet. If you’re asking them because you’re trying to pressure them it probably won’t go the way you were hoping.
What matters is how you hold that space for yourself, whether they can admit it or not. Their reaction, or lack of one, is part of the journey too. It often mirrors something back. Trust what you feel, that inner knowing is your compass.
When I finally worked up the courage to ask if they felt the pull too, they went completely silent. But that look of recognition flashed across their face - told me everything I needed to know. They couldn’t admit it meant giving up control. Even when they deflect or change the subject, they’ll slip up weeks later and reference something from our conversation. Shows they’ve been obsessing over it just as much as I have.
I had this conversation with her recently and it was pretty eye-opening. They didn’t describe the same symptoms I experience, but admitted to feeling this “weird heaviness”, like carrying something invisible but constant and knew it was connected to us.
We process the connection differently. I get the obsessive thoughts and synchronicities hitting me throughout the day. My TF described it more as this persistent emotional weight - crying at random moments without understanding why, and feeling pulled toward something she couldn’t name but my face would keep showing up.
When I finally asked mine about the telepathy stuff, they admitted to having ‘weird thoughts’ about me that felt like they weren’t their own. This happened especially during those intense moments where I’d feel their emotions really strongly. They also said they felt this pull to reach out at the exact moments I was sending them energy, though they couldn’t explain why they suddenly needed to text me.
The synchronicities freaked them out more than anything else I think. They kept seeing my name everywhere and having dreams where we’d have full conversations, but they were too overwhelmed to process what was happening.
I asked. It was terrifying but I just had to. They didn’t use the same words, no “twin flame” talk or anything, but they admitted they felt a pull they couldn’t explain.
Mine told me they feel a “special, soul-level connection” but that they think we’re meant to be best friends. I’m so confused. How can you feel all of this and then put it in a platonic box? Is this just another form of running, or am I supposed to accept that this is what our “union” looks like. Madness.
I asked and my twin confirmed he also feels it.
First time I asked he ignored the question….but it was also buried in a larger message, so I followed up asking it again, and he didn’t respond. That in itself was a kind of confirmation, because he’d have no problem telling me he didn’t feel it or thought it was ridiculous…but he didn’t.
Later, I asked less overtly, made it clear I was struggling greatly with wondering if I was insane or not and to please just confirm. I listed something very specific he could post on his socials as a way to confirm it to me without talking. And he posted it!! That was my biggest confirmation he feels the connection.
As for the telepathy, we have strong intimate telepathy and he’s multiple times posted things to confirm it by way of songs, just not as “certain” of an answer yet.
This is a tough question. From what I’ve seen, timing matters a lot with this conversation. When people are at different stages of processing things, asking directly can backfire and make them shut down more. I did see the thing in the newsletter about telling your twin flame (which is pretty much the same thing)
If you’ve done your inner work, you’re probably ready to talk about these experiences. But if your TF is still working through their own stuff, bringing it up too soon might just trigger their defenses. Everyone moves at their own pace with this, and if you want to tell them so that they’ll make a change and do something differently, then you’re really trying to rush them.
Which is understandable, I’m sure a lot of us want things to move faster, but it can backfire.
Once both people get to a certain point of healing, these conversations tend to happen more naturally. The trick is knowing when that is. Until then, if they’re being silent or deflecting, they might just need more time to process what they’re feeling before they can talk about it. The connection doesn’t go away just because someone isn’t ready to acknowledge it yet.
I asked. It was terrifying, but I just had to. They didn’t use the same words, no “twin flame” talk or anything, but they admitted they felt a pull they couldn’t explain. They mentioned the dreams and feeling like they’d known me forever. It was a huge relief, but honestly, it also made things more intense.
The validation didn’t stop the challenges like I thought it would.
That image made me laugh. Imagine just sending that and seeing what happened.
I asked mine about the dreams and synchronicities we were both having. Got a long pause, then “I don’t know what you’re talking about.” Later found out they’d been having the exact same experiences but were terrified to admit it.
Took a while before they were able to admit it to me or themselves, I think.
During one of our late-night conversations (we live on different continents now, both were in relationships), I finally brought up that first meeting. Asked if they remembered how intense it felt. They immediately knew what I meant and said they’d been having the same recurring dreams about us that I’d been having.
They said they’d tried to forget about it, tried to convince themselves it was just in their head, but couldn’t. They kept seeing my name everywhere during certain periods - street signs, random conversations, books they’d pick up. Same weird synchs I was experiencing.
We never had to have the ‘do you feel this too?’ conversation directly. It just came up naturally over time. We’d end up talking about the weird coincidences, the dreams, how we kept getting pulled back to each other even when we tried to stay away. Neither of us really knew what to call it back then.
I never knew what a “twin flame” was I’d just heard soulmates and stuff from movies.
I think we were both trying to understand the same intense experiences, just from different angles because we didn’t have the same life experiences.
When I was running, they were the one feeling the pull. When they ran, I felt it. It wasn’t always in sync. Sometimes you don’t get confirmation until years later. They’ll randomly open up about what they were going through during those times they went silent. The intensity was there for both of them too - we just dealt with it differently depending on where we were at personally. I had to let go of needing them to validate what I was feeling right away. If it’s real, they’ll share their side of it when they’re ready.
Wrote out the message asking her about it probably 50 times. Never sent it.
They always know what you’re talking about.
The fear in their eyes when you bring it up tells you everything. They feel it but can’t process it yet. Mine literally ran to another country after I mentioned feeling connected. Came back six months later asking if we could “start over” without discussing what happened.
My advice? Don’t use the words “twin flame” when you ask. Just share what you’re experiencing without the label.
The terminology scares people who aren’t in these spaces.
I haven’t asked, but my TF has reached out to me at random moments, saying. “I felt like I needed to call you.” Mind you, this was during moments where I was deeply depressed. And recently, I had a weird feeling to distance myself from a particular friend of mine. Weeks later, she told me that she started distancing herself from that exact friend I felt like distancing myself from. She inspired me to pursue a bachelor’s degree and I inspired her to pursue a master’s degree within months of each other. I can’t think of anything else off the top of my head, but those are a few examples.
Even though my twin finally confirmed (after the 300th time asking) he DID feel it too and it was all real, it’s like he’s pulled back even harder since. I’m guessing he feels more “vulnerable” with the truth out. I personally believe runners hide behind that ambiguity so they justify not having to face the truth of the connection. This makes me sad because confirmation could clear the road of so many obstacles… but no…he runs harder. But still, I am grateful to him for being brave enough to admit it.
It’s so lovely to hear that he gave you confirmation. If you don’t mind sharing, I’d love to hear about how your conversation went? Was it over the phone or face-to-face? Could you see his facial expression when you asked him? Did you ask him straight up or indirectly? 
I had already asked a few times overtly and he dodged the question both times, which I thought was odd already (I believe i posted those messages in the previous forums).So this time, I tried asking him through a more indirect method, which offered less pressure.
I told him I understood he was uncomfortable speaking directly to me, so to respect that while also giving me the information I needed (I was suffering greatly wondering if I was insane so this was the main purpose) I offered the idea of posting one of three pieces of his artwork on his socials that I loved (out of the many thousands done in his career) and were very precise and wouldn’t be posted coincidentally. I’d show them, but that would give away his identity.
Each option meant:
Option 1: The connection was real ONLY (nothing about feelings for me or others).
Option 2: Connection was real AND he had feelings for me.
Option 3: The connection was real AND he had feelings for someone else.
He made a post that included options 2 and 3 about an hour later. Connection’s real and he had feelings for both me and (I’m assuming) his girlfriend. Talk about bittersweet, lol. He denied he had feelings for me SO hard for 2 years, so it’s a great relief to know he at least cared, even if he was choosing his karmic over me. But I’m very grateful, because my TF is King Runner and this must’ve been super hard for him.
