I know I did all my life. I felt different, I was a bit strange. A loner in my own world. Struggled to make friends and struggled with men too later on. I think part of that is my upbringing (stuff to heal from). I remember feeling sad that I’d not had that magical romance that seemingly everyone else experiences growing up. After giving up when my marriage failed I still felt this regret but decided to enjoy life and if something happened great, if not that’s also fine. Then I met my TF 2 years later.
But yes there’s always been this gnawing feeling.
Just wondering how common that is on this journey.
I feel that I like an outcast, always have a different point of view, often being misunderstood. Moulded differently than my peer. Somehow, I need me to be more normal than I do usually.
Yes, I always felt like something was missing in my life, and that there was someone in particular out there for me. My sister would get frustrated with me for not trying to date anyone, including the guys she would push on me. My gut would just tell me ‘It’s not him.’
I felt weird for not even being able to fantasize about real men during alone time lol(until i met my TF) I definitely felt like an odd person growing up.
When i had a vision of him, that was the first time I felt like that “hole” in me was fulfilled, and I knew he was the missing piece.
I think what you describe is incredibly common among twin flames.
I don’t think we’re meant for “normal”.
That sense of being different, of not quite fitting in, of watching others seem content with things that left you feeling hollow… I think all of us have lived some version of that story.
I had checked all the boxes by my early thirties. Career, apartment, friends, vacations. Everything looked right on paper. But I’d lie awake with this ache I couldn’t name. Not loneliness exactly, not depression. More like homesickness for somewhere I’d never been.
I tried filling it with achievements. Promotions. Hobbies. Fitness goals. I watched people around me seem perfectly satisfied with their routines and wondered what was broken in me that I couldn’t just settle.
I thought maybe I was ungrateful. Maybe I needed therapy. Maybe this was just adult life and everyone else was better at ignoring the emptiness.
But that gnawing feeling… I believe it’s actually your soul knowing you came here for something more. Twin flames don’t incarnate to live small, predictable lives. We’re here for a love and a purpose that most people won’t ever understand - which is exactly why “normal” never fits us properly.
The journey isn’t supposed to be easy on us. Maybe part of that is feeling like we stick out and can’t do “normal” properly. Maybe that’s just part of unconsciously keeping space for something we know is coming.
The fact that you gave up trying and then met your TF two years later is pretty telling too. Sometimes we have to stop forcing ourselves into boxes that were never meant for us before the real thing can show up.
I think a small few who have just done enough work in previous lives to be almost ready for union in this lifetime probably feel relatively whole in themselves, but even then, they’ll still yearn for something, even if they can’t quite put a finger on it.
For most of us, myself included, before twin flames meet, there’s usually this deep sense of loneliness and feeling of incompleteness. I felt like an outsider my whole life, like I was waiting for something but had no clue what. Struggled socially, definitely struggled with romantic relationships. And then my TF shows up and while it wasn’t always easy I was at least grateful that things made a lot more sense.
Both twins are preparing themselves before they meet in person in the 3D. You’ve both arrived in the same lifetime with the same mission so it makes sense that you have something that pulls you toward it.
You’re definitely not alone in this. So many people on this path describe feeling different or strange their whole lives before meeting their TF.
Yes yes yes. The isolation before meeting is literally talked about as one of the first stages! I’ve seen it called the yearning stage - you feel a void in your life, maybe sense something important is coming, and start preparing emotionally and spiritually without even realizing that’s what you’re doing.
I was the weird kid too. Never fit in, always felt like I was speaking a different language than everyone around me. I think my soul just knew it was waiting for something bigger. Twin flames often share similar past experiences, including the hard stuff like childhood trauma, feeling neglected or abandoned. So your twin probably has parallel wounds from their upbringing stuff. The mirroring goes way back, not just to when you meet.
And that magical romance you felt sad about missing? The regular dating stuff most people do? A lot of us on this path skip that somehow. Or we try it and it just… doesn’t work. We were meant to wait for this, even though we didn’t know we were waiting.
I was always the loner type, in my own world, like you said. People thought I was weird or standoffish, but I just never felt like I belonged anywhere.
The twin flame experience sits outside how we normally understand relationships. It makes you feel like you’re losing touch with reality when you’re touching something deeper. That’s how it felt my whole life before meeting mine, like I just didn’t fit their idea of what life should involve or look like.
It bothered me more when I was a kid, but as I got older, I just stopped caring so much about what other people expected me to do.
Meeting your twin flame completely transforms your world and awakens you to your shared mission work together. You’re literally the same soul, and you just know when it’s real.
I think anyone on the journey must have felt the pull for something deeper and more spiritual in their life. Anyone who just caught the phrase on IG and went looking for it… probably isn’t here for the right reason or a true twin flame.
Interesting, good to know I’m not alone! I felt so lonely, I’m not unattractive and have a nice personality funny etc but few men ever showed interest or asked me out. I met my husband online and thought he was the one but it all went south quite early on, however I was determined to make it work and we got married then he immigrated here. Just under 2 years later we called it quits. I decided not to try again unless it was someone very special. Too depressing and exhausting.
As for the lead up to us meeting, I was feeling in a good place, happy and enjoying life. But also had a feeling of restlessness. And always felt something was missing.
I hope I get to discuss things with my twin at some point. I’m very curious about his life and know very little currently. He does seem quite awkward too though.
I’ve been getting a lot of heart chakra activity tonight, pulls and feels like something is wiggling in there.
Runner here being honest. That ‘something missing’ feeling? I had it too. But when I found what was missing, I panicked and ran. It’s a lot to process. The void was uncomfortable but at least I knew how to exist in it. Filling it meant losing control of who I thought I was.
I would say its universal for everyone, not just twin flames.
It is simply a human trait. Something will always feel as though it is missing in our lives. It’s what drives each and every one of us to learn, grow, create and expand.
The state of learning is a higher state of consciousness than that of knowing. Many have confirmed this.
It’s a repetitive cycle that never ends.
Continuous and complete satisfaction is simply not possible. And that’s ultimatly what makes life’s journey so captivating.
Knowing that there will always be a new lesson, a new achievement, a new accomplishment out there for us.
Yes I suppose there’s always that wanting more feeling. Some people are just more content though.
When I was with my husband I remember feeling in despair with his extreme need for solitude and feeling like we were roommates. I emailed my friend and poured out my feelings. I said I had a puddle of a relationship when I needed an ocean. And then out of nowhere my TF came along.
I think I always felt that something was missing, but never thought I’d be the kind of person who would be so focused on another person. It still really isn’t a feeling that I’m missing my twin so much as we’re both called to do something bigger than ourselves.
Maybe there’s a difference between the normal human experience of wanting more or chasing goals, and what a lot of us describe here.
The feeling many of us had wasn’t just ‘I want to achieve more’ or ‘I wonder what’s next.’ It was this specific, painful sense of waiting for someone. Homesickness for someone you’ve never met. I couldn’t have told you what I was waiting for, but it wasn’t a promotion or a new hobby or even just ‘love’ in the general sense.
I agree that restlessness and seeking are part of being human. I think what gets described has a different quality to it. Maybe not everyone experiences that distinction, but for those of us who do, it’s hard to chalk it up to general human nature.
I feel this too. I’ve known from the very start of this (way before I knew the twin flame label) that he and I have a purpose, and have had this confirmed in some powerful ways. Our relationship is for our individual growth, for our joint fulfillment, and for whatever we’re meant to be doing together in service to something higher than ourselves. I don’t know what that is yet, but I know the individual work and the recognition of our relationship’s true potential have to come first.
As for the original post, yes… I’ve always felt like an outsider. I’ve never been interested in the things most people pursue; I never fitted in at school; I don’t feel like I belong in most conventional social groups. I’ve also never cared about any of that, and have always revelled in my individuality, finding the people who resonate on similar levels. I think there’s always been a sense that I was meant to do something more, but I buried it for a long time because my life was very happy and content. When the Universe decided it was time to blast me out of my comfort zone it enabled this journey to begin, and since that’s happened I’ve felt a strange sense of recognition, like these massive changes were always meant to happen and I was always meant to be on this path.
