I want to get to know people’s experiences and opinions about this. I think regardless of the soul connections we encounter and how powerful they can be, we still human. And there’s other factors taking place. My guess is these attractions come more from the ego and they can be fascinating, but they fade eventually, while your connection with your twin remains despite everything.
What are your thoughts?
I will say, at the outset, that it is exceptionally rare for me to be genuinely attracted to anyone. I can count on one hand the number of attractions I’ve had for other people, and all of them have been deeply significant in my life. I’ve thought for a while now that it’s likely because I’ve always been on a TF journey (even before I realised it), so it’s always taken a deeper level of connection for me to be attracted to anyone outside of my twin, even before we met in the 3D.
That said… I am currently exploring a relationship with someone else while in separation from my TF. It’s been a slow, careful relating, and there is absolutely attraction there, though nothing will ever compare to the attraction I have for my twin. I know that this relationship has something important for me on this journey (we have important things for each other, for sure) and it’s a unique situation in that I’m able to be fully open about my feelings and connection to my twin soul even as this other person and I explore our own relationship. I don’t think I could entertain a relationship under any other terms… anything less would require dishonesty, and I’m not interested in a relationship that isn’t based on total honesty on all sides.
I know where my future lies. I fully believe my TF and I will reach union in this lifetime. But in the meantime I have to continue my own growth, live my own life, and find fulfillment that is not dependent on him. This relationship feels very much like it’s part of that; part of my growth, centering, and connection to my Divine Feminine. I’m sure it’s different for everyone - we are all on different spiritual paths, with different lessons to learn and different things we need to gather along the way - but for me, this is a welcome and necessary part of my journey and I’m currently embracing the gifts it’s bringing me and the growth it is furthering.
So yes, there are definitely other factors at play. Whether they’re purely ego based or spiritual gifts will depend on the individual circumstances. But I know that my connection to my twin is constant and unbreakable, and anything I’m meant to discover along the way is incapable of harming that.
I mean, yeah. In fact, I’m losing my v-card to someone else.
I met a man at the airport one week after my twin left. I was literally sleep walking in a state of shock when I met him. My twins choice of departure this time was brutal. But I eventually called him and we went out. The reason Im sharing is it turned out he was the guy who taught me how to be honest in a relationship. I knew I was never going to be with him in the end but I was able to see the significance in knowing him. It was also crazy because we had signs and synchronicities happen to the point where he noticed. I saw it as conformation I was on the right track. Not sure what he thought except that it was weird. I ended it in an honest and healthy way. Now Im done. I am not looking. I am not chasing. I just am. On a side note there were so many similarities in their circumstances at the time. Even parallel jobs. Guess who ghosted me all the time and who didn’t? Guess who actively tried to spend time with me and who didn’t? The one that insisted on open communication? I already know you know the answer lol.