First of all, I would read this thread on what surrender is like. It has some really good stuff, which will help you understand what surrender is:
And (also linked on that thread) is a thread about the other side of that coin - what chasing really means:
I’m sure someone will come along with some specific advice for you, but proper understanding is everything in the journey, so I really would take a few moments to read those if you feel stuck.
As for how you get there, @Cassady has a great guide on inner work, which is probably the best answer you can find:
