What constitutes chasing in an energetic way? What can they feel? Does just thinking about him do it because it’s near constant. Once I didn’t think of him for a few hours but then he popped straight back in my brain.
AFAIK my DM isn’t on social media. I’ve never seen him unless he’s under a different name. So that’s good.
I’m a massive overthinker/obsessive person anyway. I think I’ve got ADHD which doesn’t help. My brain plays little movies of scenarios with various people. Because I don’t know much about him I often wonder things like “How old is he?” Or “Does he like cats?”
This journey is all encompassing. It’s difficult to think of anything else although I try. Maybe that will change with time.
Then there’s the synchronicities. His name popping up or the name of where he’s originally from. Numbers. Lookalikes. And of course work is full of memories. And not forgetting when I’m getting touched/kissed telepathically. Like has been going on all afternoon today.
It’s not as if I’ve been pestering him irl. Apart from when we’ve met and spoke and for work reasons I’ve only messaged him a couple of times in a chatty way. He responded politely and that was that. I didn’t push it and because he’s ran I’m not about to send him a Merry Christmas message when the time comes, even though I’d like to. Because he’s withdrawn and it might make him run more. But not sure if he’s getting chasing energy from me anyway
I think it all depends on the energy and expectation you have.
If you’re enjoying thoughts and memories of him, I think that’s fine, but if you’re clinging on hoping and expecting those thoughts to play out and are desperate to have him in your life or be or do certain things then that is ‘pushing him away’ energy. It’s ok to think of those you are connected to and in love with, but it’s loving when you let them be free without conditions, and let divine guide you both in good time together again I’m newish to this journey, but from what I’ve read and experienced, I think it might be this I still have my moments of doubt and feeling down, but then again all of my experiences with him so far have been positive and him initiating contact, and that’s exactly what I do: I don’t expect him to say or do anything or even be in the place I’m going to, but I’m open and happy with him possibly being there, and I let things flow. Easier said than done, but trust divine knows what’s best for the both of you and is working in both of your favours
That’s a good explanation thanks! I am trying to let go a bit and have no expectations. Its also extremely tiring and my body needs a break. What will be will be.
What a beautiful surrender this is! Divine timing is such a magnificent mystery, and your willingness to trust in it is a testament to your spiritual growth.
Personally, I feel that chasing is when you try to do/say things to control or manipulate the situation between yourself and your Twin. Example, sending incessant messages, not respecting no contact, guilt tripping, posting photos on your social media to try to get a reaction from them. If it’s anything I’ve learnt on this journey, it’s about letting go of control, which for a type A personality such as myself, was a nearly impossible endeavour. Switching (or trying to) your focus from what are THEY feeling about me now, to how am I feeling is tough. But I feel is such an important part of this journey. Believe me, until today, I still fall into that rut sometimes. I understand how hard it is when their presence, their energy and your shared memories are like a constant hum at the back of your mind, then add the signs and synchronicities to it, how can someone NOT think of their Twin. Surrender. Groundedness. And leaving the light on. Those are my own personal mantras at the moment
Even just thinking about them constantly is considered energetic chasing. Even a thought about what they might be doing or some sweet memory is considered energetically chasing them. Your thoughts are vibrations and your twin IS receiving those vibrations.
The telepathic touch stuff you mentioned, the kisses and being touched - that’s a two-way street if you can feel your twin flame clearly. So while you’re thinking of him, yeah, he’s getting that energy, but he’s also sending stuff your way (whether he realizes it or not).
The reason you feel him energetically all the time is that in physical reality, your runner twin still wants to be with you, no matter how it may seem. Runners can’t actually live without their twin as much as we can’t live without them. It’s their soul agreement.
The whole thing about not messaging him for Christmas - probably smart. When we genuinely focus on ourselves, runners sense that growth. They stop seeing us as needing to be rescued or as a threat. Idk if any of this actually helps you but it’s where I’m at right now
From what I’ve noticed, being the chaser feels like carrying more of the heavy emotional stuff than the runner does, so all those constant thoughts and wondering about him is probably just part of that. The energetic chasing is more about that pull you feel rather than actually messaging him, so giving him space sounds right.
Okay mini rant incoming, can we please as a community stop making DFs feel guilty for just having thoughts?
The whole ‘even thinking about them is chasing’ thing has gone too far. We’re human beings with human brains and these connections are intense. You’re not doing something wrong by having your twin pop into your head. What matters is the intention behind the energy, not whether you dared to wonder if he likes cats.
I agree. I don’t think it can be helped sometimes either. Even when I’m not actually thinking about him, I either still feel him “in my thoughts” or a sign/synchronicity will pop up that reminds me of him, or even if I hear someone say his name. I think there’s a huge difference between thinking about them and obsessing over them. I mean, if you’re sitting alone in your room listening to sad songs and actively thinking of them and drawing scenarios in your head, then that’s maybe in a different category
@eunichick It’s right, I think it’s probably not healthy to allow yourself to sit there and intentionally dwell on them but purposefully trying to ignore them is like “Don’t think of the pink elephant” and is probably the same end result anyway.
Honestly, the energetic chasing is more about the obsessive attachment and resistance to surrendering the outcome than just thinking about them. Our twins can feel when we’re gripping tightly versus when we’re simply holding love for them. Finding that balance where you can acknowledge the connection without letting it consume your peace shifts the energy between you both.
Thanks for the comments lots of interesting thoughts there. I’m a massive overthinker anyway so overanalyse everything lol and this is probably the biggest challenge of my life. I feel like Frodo in Lord of the Rings Hopefully I’m doing ok though and will try to relax a bit and not pressurise myself too much.
Something that helped me tell the difference between natural connection and chasing was doing a quick body scan whenever my twin popped into my head. Notice where you feel the thought in your body - is it a warm heart expansion or a tight solar plexus grip?
If it’s the anxious grip, I’d place my hand on my stomach, take a few deep breaths, and mentally say ‘I release you to your highest path.’ Stopping the thoughts completely is basically impossible with ADHD anyway, but this at least shifts the energy behind them from need to something more neutral. You could also try keeping a small notebook to jot down when the telepathic sensations happen - patterns often show up that help you understand the flow better.
Usually I get the warm heart feelings but sometimes it’s out of nowhere I’m not thinking of him at all. Happened as I was getting out of my car earlier.
I’ve been taking notes on my phone when things happen much easier for me.
In my experience, the concept of energetic chasing often gets confused with simply maintaining the connection. True energetic chasing stems from a desperate, grasping energy - reaching out from a place of lack rather than love.
The divine feminine often carries guilt for simply feeling the connection intensely, but there’s a difference between naturally sensing your twin’s presence and actively pulling on the cord from a fearful place. The body actually knows the difference - chasing energy typically creates anxiety and depletion, while simply experiencing the connection feels more like warmth and fullness, even when it’s bittersweet.
This energetic tethering you’re describing is exactly what separates twin flames from soulmates. With my soulmate ex, when it ended, it ENDED. No constant mental pull, no telepathic anything, no universe throwing his name at me everywhere.
The chasing energy you’re worried about just doesn’t exist in soulmate dynamics because there’s no shared energetic body to transmit through.
Okay, so your brain spaghetti is valid, but here’s another way to look at it. Those syncs and seeing his name everywhere and the lookalikes - I get how that can mess with you. Your runner might be pulling away in real life, but energetically, there’s probably still something there, like he can’t fully shake the connection either.
I’m newish to this journey, but from what I’ve read and experienced, I think it might be this 
I still have my moments of doubt and feeling down, but then again all of my experiences with him so far have been positive and him initiating contact, and that’s exactly what I do: I don’t expect him to say or do anything or even be in the place I’m going to, but I’m open and happy with him possibly being there, and I let things flow. Easier said than done, but trust divine knows what’s best for the both of you and is working in both of your favours 
Hopefully I’m doing ok though and will try to relax a bit and not pressurise myself too much.