Someone in the community messaged me last week because they felt like they were doing something “wrong”.
She’d read somewhere that “even thinking about your twin is energetic chasing.” So she tried to go a full day without a single thought of him.
She made it about forty minutes.
… I was pretty impressed she lasted this long, honestly.
Then a song came on. She glanced at her phone just in time to see 11:11. Then that familiar warmth on her back. The telepathic touches had been happening all afternoon.
By the end of the day, she felt like a failure. Felt ‘guilty’ because her brain wouldn’t stop thinking about him. She convinced herself she was somehow pushing him away by just… feeling connected to him.
I remember feeling that same guilt a long time ago during my own separation, so here’s what I asked her.
“What if those signs aren’t coming from you?”
Twin flame telepathy is never a “one-way” broadcast. This is a connection. A bond.
When you feel them that clearly and that often, it’s because they’re reaching out to you, too. Whether they understand it or not.
Chasing isn’t about “having thoughts”. It’s about the intention behind your energy.
There’s a huge difference between feeling your twin cross your mind… and sending message after message trying to force a specific outcome.
One is a connection. The other is control.
Wondering what he’s doing right now isn’t chasing. Feeling his energy while you’re making coffee isn’t chasing. Having little mental movies play out because your brain works that way?
Definitely not chasing.
Simply being connected to your twin at a soul level is not something you should feel guilty about. It’s… kind of the whole point.
Both runners and chasers deal with different aspects of this connection being on their mind all the time. The journey wouldn’t go anywhere if we were able to just forget about it.
This journey can be a lot.
It’s all-encompassing. It takes over your brain. It’s hard to think about anything else sometimes, even when you’re trying.
And that doesn’t make you obsessive. Or crazy.
It makes you someone going through one of the most intense spiritual experiences a human being can have.
But the brain doesn’t process negatives well. When you tell yourself, “stop thinking about him,” your brain hears “think about him.”
So, trying to force him out of your mind only makes it worse.
There IS a line between obsessing and feeling connected. But it’s not where most people think. One drains you. One doesn’t. One is about control. One is about connection.
You probably already know which one you’re doing most of the time. Trust that.
