How do you cope when every single connection between you gets cut?
For a while, I thought I was in a good place. Maybe even things were getting between us, but then, out of nowhere this weekend, I woke up on the complete other side. And then of course today I have nothing but angel numbers.
Has anyone found a way to actually function through this stage?
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Separation can be really painful in the beginning when you are just stumbling around trying to figure things out. But once you understand it, the path seems a ābitā easier.
Of course, there are days where you feel confident about this connection and progess becomes visible (thatās even more encouraging). But the days where silence prevails and everything goes still is when everything would be tested.
Keep yourself together, focus your energy inwards. Easier said than done, I know. But you need to trust yourself, trust your twin flame and have enough faith on the universe.
Your inner works and growth happens when there is nothing distracting you, when your energies come back into you. Try new things, think about your time before your twin flameā¦ what you liked to do. Hobbies. Friends. Families. And remember to stay calm.
Your twin flame will only come back when you are not desperate. They will only come back when you want them, not need them. They will come back when you are whole, complete and strong enough to carry the vast expanse of love this connection bring with it.
If this is real and meant to last, it will be alright and will come back when you are ready. And if it breaks and goes away forever, it was never meant for you and trust meā¦ you are better without such connections.
Wishing you wellness and stability. Hope you find your way ahead! 
Anything else isnāt doing anything other than keeping you stuck. There might be some things you can do to make yourself feel better for the short term but the inner work is what will really get you through it.
Compartmentalizing hard actually helps me function. Nighttime is for sats and visualization, but once I wake up I fully accept the 3D as it is and just live my life. Make plans, take action.
You already experienced your desire in the 4D (thatās the whole point), so now you just sit in the present and let the future catch up.
It has happened to me a lot these last couple of months. I decided it was him not me. because I honestly couldnāt be happier except the romance part of my life. So the next time it happened I just told myself its him and was thankful he was at least suffering which meant he is working on himself as well. Then I send a little love his way and get on with my day. I have gotten quite good at it now lol. So In my case thatās definetly what it is. if it ends up being yours give my way a try if you think it might help that is. It did wonders for me because im talking about being randomly hit by overwhelming emotion that would and did stop me in my tracks. No joke. No exaggeration. I would literally have to stand motionless because it was like a physical force of emotion. I donāt have any other way to describe it. but itās horrible and there is no way I could have kept going like that. No way.
Just let the feelings move through you. Donāt fight them. Trying to force detachment never works. Most of us figure that out the hard way eventually.
When youāre stuck in that loop of thinking about everything constantly, thereās usually something underneath driving it. Fear, shame, or whatever. If you can sit with that feeling without building a whole narrative around it (which is the hard part, I know), you start to feel lighter after. Not immediately. But after.
I know it sounds unbearable in the moment. Processing those emotions clears the path forward. Youāre still loved even when youāre feeling all of this. Worth remembering that part.
Every single one of my separations has coincided with an old wound resurfacing. Childhood stuff, family patterns I inherited, things that existed long before my twin ever entered the picture. The universe pulls them away, so you canāt use the connection as a distraction from your own unhealed layers. Weād do that otherwise.
Shadow work during these phases is brutal. Thatās the entire point.
Weāre supposed to be able to handle this??
A lot of us hit this wall at the same time. Itās like going through the worst heartbreak of the worst breakup and itās on neverending repeat but I think thatās what it takes to fuel us to do this kind of journey.
Its hard to give a concrete answer. I hit rock bottom started doing drugs hanging with the wild crowd and doing wild things but it was all escapeism I hit a brick wall and started to heal over time now I feel closer to her despite being physically further away now sometimes it still hurts and the longing never goes away it took 15 years to start to get out of the dark feeling of seperation but now I know that its just part of it but it still was hell for a long time especially seeing them living there life unaware and normal whilst you go thru hell every day.
I started journaling from the future. Writing as if we had already made it, and the separation was over. So every Friday morning, Iāll sit with my journal, and Iāll write from the first person as if weāve already gone through the work and weāre back living together.
Helps give me the energy and motivation to do more and also helps me think out loud (while writing) to figure out what I can and should be doing.
Sending you love. Youāre not alone in this, and you will be okay.
I have to keep reminding myself of that too, honestly.
Stop trying to force the letting go. My guides keep hammering this point, knowing your truth is important. Once that really clicks into place (like deep-down clicks, not just intellectually), the detachment everyone talks about just kind of follows on its own.
You canāt focus on the separation, you need to focus on the knowing so you can let go. Allow the universe to work for you, not trying to just ignore it.
I try not to expect too much of myself whilst also doing things that I really need to do. I work, eat, pay my bills. Outside of that, if Iām tired, I rest. If I feel like going for a drink, I do. I donāt push myself into anything because I just donāt have the energy to do inessential activities in addition to all the soul work this journey requires.
At the moment I am a sort of hermit and thatās the way I like it. I say hi to people, but thatās about it.
A work situation forced my twin and I apart about a month ago. Since then our only contact has been a few professional emails in sight of others. We donāt see each other outside work or talk so we donāt have any personal contact details whatsoever. Even though he was the one who sent the email reporting me for being too nice to him, heās suffering. I know he is. He has appeared twice in my dreams since then, once sitting beside me on a bench and resting his head on my shoulder, asking if I was OK. I keep getting song lyrics in my head - āIām sorry, I messed up,ā āDonāt Give Up On Us Baby,ā and today, āHow Do I Get You Alone?ā
In the beginning I was alternately devastated and numb, then I coped by putting it into 3D perspective that someone fully healed wouldnāt do that to someone they loved. Thatās my strategy at the moment. It helps me to keep the distance that we obviously need to heal. I know I pushed him to it by chasing, but still. It was a betrayal in 3D terms, and I donāt want to be treated like that by anyone. The one good thing it did was help me put the focus back on myself.
I honestly think the letting go is not your actual twin. Itās the messed up relationship you were in. If in fact you were in one. I can only relate that way but it took me forever to figure this one out. Like yesterday. But I knew immediately after this was it. I did it. Then it hit me. The two worse separations with a shorter one in the middle. My threes. the funny thing is the first one he left in march and came back in September. this one gone September first andā¦ā¦dont know yet. But the best part? I dont care about that anymore. Itās like my wings have been clipped this whole time and now the string was cut and Im ready to fly. So maybe it will help you to know, what exactly youāre trying to let go of in the first place.