In some ways this is the wrong question to ask and in other ways… it is the best.
You can’t sit and hope and wait for your twin to wake up. That’s where people get stuck for years of separation. They label themselves “awakened” and stall their own healing and the harsh truth is that’s going to cover 90% of the users here.
Including the ones who read that and immediately decided "not me".
That’s not a judgement. It takes time and a different type of awakening for us to be able to see the truth of where we are, honestly with ourselves. As humans, we’re incredibly good at lying to ourselves.
So you should be looking to take control of your journey to union, and that includes making sure your runner wakes up and starts doing some work; however, you also can’t get there by focusing on what your runner is or isn’t doing. If he’s not ready, neither are you. It shifts focus back to what you control.
It always comes back to focusing on what you can control.
Even if your runner is married to an entire harem or living outside your house in a tent.
Do shadow work. Confront uncomfortable stuff. Journal. Learn how to journal properly and do the shadow work. Trace patterns like fear of abandonment or codependency. Start using guided meditation every single night.
Don’t skip to synchronicities or readings. They’re tools, not the heavy lifting. They can help point you in the direction but they’ll keep pointing for a decade while you sit in separation if you don’t do something about it. Runners return when both do the inner work. Your twin mirrors you, so if he’s running, something in you is too.
When you stop chasing and heal deeply, energy shifts. They feel you pulling back, and it sparks their awakening. Watch for small signs like more empathy or solitude. Questioning patterns too. Early signals.