I tried to use other connections as a distraction and it just made the TF pull louder.
I started being radically honest with myself and the other person. I tell them I’m not fully emotionally available, instead of pretending I am. That way, I can actually see where I still leak energy toward my twin, rather than just secretly comparing everyone to them.
I agree with those that say the chasing serves a purpose. Distracting never works, my method is to turn right towards whatever thoughts, pains, or anxieties I’m having, and figure out why its there. Turn inward. I swear, the chasing energy lessens a LOT after healing the core wounds behind it all. Therefore, I believe working through chasing, versus trying to shut it down, is the best method.
This visualization technique is soooo helpful, thank you for sharing! I’ve been trying something similar but hadn’t quite figured out how to frame it in my mind. The idea of letting them ‘live’ in that 5D space while you observe is honestly brilliant because it addresses that fear we have of them existing separately from us without us being part of it.
And yes to the part about being pulled back into 3D obsession temporarily! That used to freak me out sooo much, like I’d think I’d ‘failed’ at surrender. But now I see those moments as little tests or maybe just more layers coming up to be healed. The key really is not acting on it and just observing.
Gratitude to source indeed
Finally, someone who actually understands the mechanics at play here rather than simply regurgitating the same tired ‘just focus on yourself’ platitudes.
This is precisely the level of discernment that separates those who genuinely progress on this journey from those who remain stuck in the same loops for years. The observer consciousness is not merely a coping mechanism - it’s the actual gateway to higher dimensional awareness that most seekers completely overlook in their rush to ‘fix’ the situation.
I would add that until one develops this witnessing capacity, they’re essentially operating as a passive recipient of every energetic fluctuation in the connection. That’s not mastery, that’s spiritual adolescence. The moment you can hold space for the intensity without being consumed by it, you’ve accessed something that the majority never will.
Sorry if this is slightly off-topic but I just wanted to say this really resonated with me.
I think what you’re describing here is actually what surrender looks like in practice - not abandoning the connection entirely, but choosing to be nourished by what’s actually present in your life right now instead of starving while you wait. The meal metaphor is honestly perfect because it captures that weird paradox of being genuinely satisfied AND still wanting something more at the same time. Those two feelings can coexist, and I think that’s something a lot of us struggle to accept. We think we have to either be completely over them or completely consumed by them, but there’s this middle ground where you’re living fully while still holding that quiet space.
It sounds like you’ve found something really healthy here, even if it doesn’t feel like a complete solution. The fact that you can say you’re truly happy while still acknowledging that longing - that’s not failure, that’s actually the work paying off. Thank you for sharing this perspective, it’s genuinely helpful to hear from someone who’s managed to find that balance.