Just out of interest - is everyone in here in separation? Is there anyone with their TF at the moment?
Mine just reached out out of the blue and we were in separation with no contact I feel a bit lost all the advice going around is about what to do in separation - not when it ends…
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There is a better post about this somewhere… if I can find it, I will link it.
Most people here are in separation, but not all. There were reasons posted that make sense. It’s like most people in union don’t need this kind of space, so they are away, focusing on other callings.
Some were in separation; that ends, and they stick around for a while but slowly drift away.
I think there are a tiny, tiny number of people who reach union and stick around for the good of the collective community.
And then there are a small % of people who are probably not TFs, but they hang around communities like this to claim they are in union, either just to feel good or to sell something. This is the tiny minority, though and it makes me even more thankful for the real ones who stick around just to help others on their journey.
So most are in separation but not everyone - and it makes sense.
I’m in the same situation as you are now. My Twin and I went through a period of 10 months of no contact last year, he reached out on my birthday in Oct 2025, and since then we’ve been speaking sporadically. I definitely won’t say we are in union; personally I still consider this a separation even though we are speaking now
When he first reached out, I got very anxious. I was afraid to “screw it up” again coz the 10 month period was not the first time he’s ghosted me. So the first few months, I felt as though I was walking on eggshells. But I realised his return also triggered parts of me that I didn’t realise weren’t fully healed yet. So I focused on those aspects during this time. We even had the chance to meet face to face (I attribute this to divine timing and divine intervention) after 2 years of not seeing each other. We are long distance so no contact stung so much
I now try to remain grounded every time he reaches out and be my full authentic self. Truth is, you can never ruin/screw up anything that is meant for you. I live my life to the fullest as best as I can every day, and stay in the moment when he does contact me. I try to enjoy every interaction as opposed to overthinking everything I say/do. His energy is still a silent hum at the back of my mind every day, but now I accept that he’s just. There. And he isn’t going anywhere. Finding joy in the little things helps a lot this time around 
Communication and consistent effort. Not everyone’s willing to bring those to the table, which is what makes reunion so complicated.
Happy for you, truly. But mine? No chance he would ever reach out. Even drowning in it, missing me so bad he couldn’t stand it, he still wouldn’t say a word out loud.
That’s just not who he is.
Same here. Mine finally stopped running and things are actually flowing now. Feels surreal after everything.
Had to step back from social media though. Just needed that peace to focus on my own life while this unfolds.
Everyone’s separation looks so different, so I would try not to focus too much on how others are doing (as tempting as it obviously is). As others have said - the twin counterparts who are in union don’t have a lot of reason to stay around the community.
I do wonder how many went through all of this and got to union before we even had a modern word for it and had online groups like this. They had to figure out everything themselves.
I am now, as of 8 or so hours ago I started NC and I’m already dying inside.
It’ll be okay though.