Someone posted their experience of this happening recently and @Cassady had some really nice advice (as did a lot of people there). Might be worth a look.
I think before this topic gets started, we should remind people that this can be a pretty emotionally charged topic, so let’s be kind to each other.
Nobody should want to cause pain to someone else. That includes breaking up a marriage. That’s not helpful energy, it won’t help you on your path to union and I don’t think the majority think that way.
But it can be an incredibly tough spot to be in, so let’s keep that in mind.