I’m sending so much love to anyone who’s in the thick of it right now. The sleepless nights, the obsessive thoughts, the heartbreak of loving someone who keeps running.
It’s brutal, and I wish I could take that pain away and handle it for you.
This journey isn’t asking you to just “accept yourself as you are” and give up. It’s asking you to grow into the highest version of yourself
That person you are becoming is magnificent. You’re already worthy of love right now, but the you that’s emerging from this fire is going to be… unstoppable.
Don’t let the hard days make you believe you’re lacking something. You’re becoming something, not broken. That’s a big difference.
Your twin is your twin for a reason.
Your connection isn’t going anywhere. But while you’re waiting, while you’re hurting… pour that love back into yourself. Not because you’re giving up on union with your twin, but because your growth is what moves everything forward.
The future version of your story is more beautiful than you can imagine right now. Trust that.
Rooting for every single one of you.
~ Someone who played both roles and finally found my way
I can’t remember which thread it was, but someone pointed out that most of the people around communities like this are in separation.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that most twin flames are in separation. Just most of the people in the union don’t have a need to stick around communities like this anymore.
So a lot of the threads are a little darker because most of us are going through a tough time.
I personally really appreciate those who do stick around. I think there are probably plenty of people who are currently with their tf (myself included) who would not be if it weren’t for the guidance of those who had already gone through it all before.
Also great that we have some more positive threads like this and there are more success stories of reunion lately. Can’t wait to see more of them in the future
It’s good to read encouraging posts like this. I was on the verge of confiding in a friend the other day, I was going over it in my head on our walk but stopped myself. Fear of not being believed or thought I was crazy I guess. And I saw a DM lookalike in the cafe when we were having a drink later.
I’m struggling a bit today. Life feels monotonous. The path is so confusing and tough. Struggling to relate to friends and family. Missing him. Small moments of respite during the day. So grateful for this community.
The part about pouring love back into yourself hits hard. It is hard to learn to do it truly for your own self-love and not as a tactic to get them back. Hard to look beyond what you want with them when they’re such a big part of your world.
Oh, this post hit me hard because I literally lived both sides too.
When I chased, most of the time I thought I was doing something wrong - wrong texts, wrong timing, wrong everything. When I ran, I couldn’t explain it to myself. Sometimes I don’t know which side I’m on.
Genuine question is how do you know when you’re actually growing vs just coping with someone who doesn’t want to be with you? I keep seeing posts about “doing the work” but at what point is it just… accepting someone who isn’t choosing you?
The runner often carries a lot of collective masculine wounds too like a fear of vulnerability or fear of being destroyed if they open up fully.
For anyone who needed this message today you might also really benefit from reading something like this to understand why the runner does this (they don’t do it TO you they do it FOR you… for you BOTH):
It’s not personal even (when it feels extremely personal at the time). Their soul is fighting against centuries of programming that says opening to love = danger.
