The runner often carries a lot of collective masculine wounds too like a fear of vulnerability or fear of being destroyed if they open up fully.
For anyone who needed this message today you might also really benefit from reading something like this to understand why the runner does this (they don’t do it TO you they do it FOR you… for you BOTH):
It’s not personal even (when it feels extremely personal at the time). Their soul is fighting against centuries of programming that says opening to love = danger.