Does anyone feel like silent treatment with your twin flame feels different? It feels worse than just being in no contact when they are actively trying not to say anything or making it obvious that they are giving you the silent treatment.
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I think I know what you mean. It is weird, I know him and he is far too emotionally mature to play these kinds of games, but I guess he canât help himself here.
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Yeah, I think I went through the same thing. Every time I got needy or tried to control things, he would pull away - become distant, and the love just felt⌠different. Not colder, I still knew he loved me but I could feel something between us. In our case, it was a short-term karmic, and he told me it was the guilt for being with someone else, even for that short term, he couldnât bring himself to also be in contact with me. Even though he was technically not doing anything wrong he still felt guilty.
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The deliberateness is what gets you. There is a real difference between no contact and the silent treatment.
No contact is like⌠the line goes dead. Theyâre gone, you grieve, you figure out how to exist without them. Done. But if theyâre giving you the silent treatment, then they might even be watching your stories or liking other peopleâs stuff while pointedly not responding to you. That calculated-feeling avoidance cuts like a knife.
I do agree itâs probably soul shock. They donât understand what theyâre feeling, they donât know why they feel that way, and they try to shove the whole experience into a normal relationship framework that just doesnât apply here. So you get some half-baked excuse for the silence. They give themselves a half-baked justification. The runner often feels the same intense feelings we do as chasers, but they panic because they understand those feelings even less than we do.
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I was getting the silent treatment after our first separation⌠but there was one night I wasnât in a good place mentally.
He knew what I had been going through and he reached out almost immediately that night. They only give you silent treatment when you both need the space your TF doesnât actually ignore you.
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Does anyone else deal with the paradox of your twin going fully silent but still watching every single one of your stories, liking old posts? That in-between space where they wonât speak to you but clearly havenât looked away⌠itâs its own unique torture.
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Iâm in somewhat of that space now. Not fully silent, texting sporadically but nothing concrete or meaningful. He was liking and reacting to my stories. Weâre in this weird in between space and Iâll be honest. I donât know how to navigate it
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Yes. I was in an abusive relationship in the past and that silent treatment was always a punishment. Itâs different with my twin (not a punishment) but doesnât feel a whole lot better.
My twin takes things to heart so he will often stay completely silent instead of explaining something that would dispel the mystery. For example, he still doesnât have the answer to a work question I asked about a couple of hours earlier. To me itâs like, no problem, Iâll just wait, but to him itâs a big deal. He will ignore my calls and everything to avoid telling me he doesnât know yet, until he has a definitive answer.
He has begun not putting his out of office on so I donât know if heâs just temporarily busy or away on leave when I actually need to contact him about something work-related. Itâs disheartening, feels like a step back, and is maddening when I am trying to do my job and stay sane at the same time. On occasion it feels over the top and it may well be a test to see what I do, but as someone else said I think it is about space. Sometimes we think we are giving them space but if they think not, they will take more.
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During silent treatment phases, my twin - who wonât even say the word âconnectionâ out loud - somehow shows up so vividly in my dreams itâs almost disorienting. And then I find out later they dreamed of me too. Every time.
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This sounds familiarâŚ
And the out-of-office thing⌠yeah. Thatâs him creating âdistanceâ without actually distancing himself. Itâs not malicious, but itâs definitely deliberate in the way that only someone hyperaware of your presence could be. He knows exactly what removing that small courtesy does. It keeps you guessing, keeps the dynamic slightly off-balance, and gives him a sense of control over a connection that probably terrifies him on some level.
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It can always feel like a difference to us, but runners behave differently from chasers. They perceive things differently, too. Sometimes their choices can feel like theyâre trying to make things worse or harder, but half the time, I donât think they can explain their own choices to themselves. The rest of the time, they tend to think theyâre doing the right thing, but theyâre making decisions with only 10% of the information.
If remember that⌠Itâs hard to blame them.
The runner is most likely deep in a denial phase. They have free will and theyâre using it to put everything on hold because the intensity of the connection is overwhelming them. The depth of it feels triggering. During this time, theyâre also working through their own shadow stuff around vulnerability and communication and personal space - all of that getting lived through by both counterparts at the same time.
Sometimes listening to runners talk about what it felt like⌠I think I am glad I was a chaser. I donât think either side gets an easy ride but at least I had some understanding of what was happening. Beats flailing around wildly in the dark.
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Ah yes, nothing quite like the spiritual gift of someone pointedly ignoring you while their energy hovers three inches from your aura. What a blessing. But one thing I havenât seen mentioned here is what you actually DO with yourself during those stretches. Because that part matters.
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Thatâs what I thought. If he didnât care or wasnât aware of the connection, he wouldnât change how he was behaving in these small ways. The lack of an out-of-office did cause a bit of confusion at work, but other than that, I just behaved as if it hadnât happened. I know by now that if it doesnât disrespect or harm me, itâs best to let it pass without comment or reaction because doing so will only freak him out more.
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Every time I find peace within myself and stop needing the external validation⌠he comes back. Like clockwork.
The silence was teaching me to become whole on my own. Thatâs the real work of sacred union.
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My grandmother always said âwrite the letter, then burn it.â Writing unsent letters to my twin during silent treatment has saved my sanity more than anything else.
Just getting it all out on paper helps.
When Iâm centered in that knowing - like really rooted in my true source of love, just loving him without needing anything back - we have the most amazing conversations
But when Iâm not in that space the silence feels protective in hindsight. Itâs almost like the universe keeps him from responding when Iâm operating from fear instead of peace and love. Every time
Step back. Thatâs what Iâd say. Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for yourself is just not analyze their silence.
Focus on your own process instead.
That⌠probably should have a thread in itself, but you start to get into some murky territory and it becomes a moot point because most people in that situation wonât consider that it applies to them anyway.
On top of that social media has warped the terminology for âcodependent relationshipsâ. I see people use that phrase now to describe couples who happily enjoy spending a lot of time together.
The idea that people in unhealthy connections can rationalize it as a twin flame journey isnât new and wonât surprise anyone. Of course, it happens. Thereâs a reason this is one of the more popular threads.
Doesnât take away from the real journey, however.
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May be you are starting to bounce between timelines and your Twin Flame awakening is just the beginning of a much deeper process of getting your spiritual awareness on. Donât limit yourself to this journey alone then. Try to see what the Universe has prepared for you and to find your place within the Greater plan for us all. Donât stop your growth now. Thatâs the best piece of advice anyone can give you. Find the strength within yourself to realize your full potential.
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Thank you, I believe this is the best advice for me right now. I will take it to heart! 
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