Check your Vertex points. That’s the ‘electric ascendant’ and shows fated encounters. When someone’s personal planets (especially Sun or Venus) conjunct your Vertex, that’s something to pay attention to. Means some kind of soul connection at least.
I don’t know if you can use it to answer questions like this 100%
But it can help give you some kind of hints or let you tap into your own intuition. Look at the 8th house overlays between you two, and whether your Chiron touches their personal planets. Chiron contacts show where you’re meant to heal each other, which comes up a lot in the TF dynamic.