I’ve been trying to do my birth chart and my TFs to look at the similarities in the two. I don’t know if I’m really doing it right (new to all this), and I’m not seeing anything that is the same. Is that… a bad sign?
Anyone else who’s checked out synastry with their twin, what grabbed your attention? Especially looking at nodes, Saturn aspects, or those asteroids like Juno or Psyche.
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Not seeing obvious similarities isn’t a bad sign at all. Twin flame charts don’t usually match up like people expect them to. I think even if you’re comfortable with birth charts, there’s still no easy answer. I mean, what is simple about the journey, for that matter? 
I’ve looked at dozens of these over the years, and the pattern is actually the opposite of what most people think they should see. For my own, I had it done for me. I wasn’t going to even try to do it myself.
Your charts are probably showing challenging aspects rather than easy ones. That’s normal. The squares, oppositions and Saturn contacts. Those create the intensity and friction that twin flames are known for. When I see charts with too many harmonious trines and sextiles, that usually seems to be more of a soulmate pattern, not twin flame. The difficulty is kind of the point because it forces both people to grow and transform.
Look for things like one person’s Sun touching the other’s Moon (conjunction or opposition both work), Venus-Mars contacts even if they’re squares, any Pluto aspects to personal planets, and especially Saturn touching personal planets. Those Saturn aspects feel heavy, but they’re what creates that pull where you can’t seem to leave each other alone, even when it would be easier to walk away.
Good instinct checking the nodes.
When someone’s North Node hits your personal planets (Sun, Moon, Venus especially), that’s a growth teacher showing up. The person whose planets get hit embodies something the other person needs to learn in this lifetime. It’s a pull but also pushes you out of your comfort zone. Sound familiar?
South Node contacts are the “I’ve known you forever” feeling. That instant recognition a lot of us get when we first see our twin. Familiar energy from your past encounters in other lives. South Node stuff can also make one person feel like they’ve already given everything in previous lifetimes, so they might be more detached this time around, while the other person feels it intensely.
For asteroids, keep your orbs tight - like 1-2 degrees max. Juno shows marriage/commitment potential. Eros is that raw magnetic pull. They add texture to what the major planets are already saying, but they shouldn’t be the main thing you’re looking at. If you’ve got strong planetary aspects plus some asteroid confirmations, that’s always a good sign. The pattern matters more than any single contact.
Opposite signs show up constantly in twin flame charts. It’s almost never what people expect to see.
Aries-Libra, Taurus-Scorpio, all six pairs. They’re mirrors but expressed through polarity. You’re looking at the same life themes from completely different angles, which is why it can feel like you have nothing in common on the surface but everything in common underneath.
Check your 12th house overlays. When their planets fall in your 12th or vice versa, that creates the telepathic, “I know what you’re thinking without you saying it” vibe. That house holds past-life stuff and unconscious bonds. It’s probably the most spiritual overlay you can have in your synastry. If you’ve got Vertex opposite Vertex within about 3 degrees, or their planets conjunct your Vertex, that’s Spirit putting you in each other’s path at specific times for specific reasons.
But all of this works as a package. You need multiple indicators creating a pattern, not just one or two aspects.
My twin flame and someone I was with for years in a super karmic relationship share the same Sun and Moon placements. Like, exact same. Similar placements can show up in both types of relationships, which is why synastry can be confusing when you’re first looking at it.
False twin flames will stand out on your birth chart as well.
So if you’re not seeing obvious matches, that might not be the red flag you think it is. I’d maybe look more at how those placements affect each other rather than just matching signs. The nodes, especially, can tell you way more about the soul mission you share.
Hope that helps and doesn’t just add to your confusion. 
I found some similar stuff in our charts too! My twin is a Taurus sun while I have Taurus moon, and we’re both Cancer rising. The mirroring you’re looking for might not be identical placements but rather complementary energies that balance each other out.
My twin and I are both fire signs (Sag and Aries), and at first, I thought we’d have more matching placements. But we share that fire energy, which seems to push us both toward change. Fire signs are about purification and burning away what doesn’t serve us, right? I’d look at how the aspects between your charts interact. Check how the nodes interact with each other’s personal planets. Saturn aspects can show where you’re being asked to mature and do the inner work.
I wouldn’t stress if you’re not seeing obvious ‘twin flame markers.’ The chart shows you the energetic blueprint for your ascension. Your gut feeling and the growth you’re experiencing probably matter more than matching asteroids.
I wouldn’t stress about having identical placements personally… my TF and I have the same rising sign but we don’t have matching moons or most of the obvious stuff people talk about.
The rising sign thing felt major because it’s how we both approach the world and present ourselves, so there’s this weird recognition factor that happens. But if EVERYTHING matched, wouldn’t that just be boring? There’d be nothing to learn from or grow together.
I’d say instead of hunting for sameness, look at the tension points and the complementary aspects. Just my two cents, the ‘bad sign’ isn’t a lack of identical placements.
The 3D chart won’t always reflect a 5D connection. I’ve seen twins with harsh squares and oppositions that make sense when you consider that those tensions push the spiritual side of things. Sometimes the charts look incompatible in traditional astrology because the focus is on awakening rather than earthly harmony.
Look at composite chart placement in the 12th house, that’s a huge tell for operating beyond the physical.
This is so true, and it’s a relief to hear someone say it.
The thing about trying to find patterns in the charts is that it can become another way we spiral when we’re already triggered by the journey itself. If you’re not seeing what you think you ‘should’ see, please don’t let that add to whatever you’re already carrying right now.
Take breaks from the analysis when you need to. Your connection isn’t going to disappear because you can’t find the ‘right’ aspects in a chart.
Wait, so similar placements can mean it’s either a twin flame OR a false twin? That’s… actually kind of what I was worried about. I started looking at the charts because I thought it would give me some clarity, but now I’m more confused than when I started. Sorry, probably not helpful. Just… relating to the confusion part.
Traditional astrology texts have some good methods for analyzing relationship longevity that work well with twin flame synastry. Might be worth looking into some classical techniques while you’re exploring your charts. Sometimes the most meaningful connections don’t jump out right away (it took me forever to spot the patterns that mattered in mine).
