This is so common in the twin flame journey.
The separation strips away all the distractions so you can focus on your own soul growth. Giving your energy to someone else right now would just dilute what you’re meant to be working on. Being alone feels right because it is right for this phase.
I have never been popular with men unfortunately and have only had 2 lovers, years of online dating went nowhere (apart from my karmic stbx husband) so can’t see me getting any off anyone soon. I couldn’t just go out and hook up with a random. It’s not that I’m unattractive but there’s something that keeps them away. Maybe it’s a mental block, I give off stay away vibes? Maybe I’m only meant to be with my twin now at some point, that would be nice. It would explain the loneliness I felt in my early 20s, he wasn’t incarnated then.
The twin flame dynamic rewires how you experience intimacy on an energetic level. It just does. The connection opens up a frequency of exchange that doesn’t exist anywhere else. Once that channel is open, everything is up for grabs.
The “nobody else registers” club has another member. 
I swipe on dating apps sometimes just to see if anything sticks and it’s like my brain immediately goes “nah, not even close”.
Surface-level attraction starts to feel like static noise. Your energy body becomes selective in a way your mind can’t really override, no matter how much you try. Fighting it usually just delays your own growth.
I felt guilty about it at first like I was wasting my life but now I see it as one of the biggest gifts of the experience. The clarity and peace that comes from not scattering your energy is incredible. Trust that feeling that it’s right for you right now.
Checking Venus/Mars compatibility actually helped me figure out what was real connection versus just fixation. Easier when the charts match.
Sexual energy is sacred. Full stop. That’s what the divine keeps showing me through all of this, over and over again.
Real union is something orchestrated by forces way bigger than us. So now I’m just way more conscious about who I share that creative energy with. Can’t give it away carelessly anymore (not once you actually understand what it means).
Meditation and dancing give me more than anything physical could right now. Expanding creatively during this separation has been good for me.
That deep connection we had. Nothing else comes close, so why even bother with hollow substitutes.
Nothing else even registers. It’s been four years now. I haven’t been with anyone else, haven’t really wanted to. The intensity of what we had just made everything after feel pointless.
Sometimes I wonder if I’m using that as an excuse to hide from connection. Probably worth being honest with myself about that.
Nothing even comes close.
Once you’ve felt that kind of connection, you can’t go back.
Everything else just feels like settling.
Not by choice I just cant seem to connect with other people
Eleven years. Solitude just became the natural state. When you spend that long as a runner feeling unworthy of connection, celibacy stops being a choice and turns into a default you stop questioning.
It does get easier with time though.
That one attempt with someone I thought might be a soulmate told me everything. No connection or passion. The whole thing just felt awkward and forced.
I had already been celibate for six months before I even realized who my twin was, and going back to that after an experience like that just… made sense. If I ever find someone I genuinely connect with, great. But I’m not holding my breath.
Honestly I think celibacy in separation is less mystical than people make it out to be. Your brain tags one person as the reference point and everything else goes bland. That’s kind of it.
I’m treating it like a reset. Somatic work and limiting rumination triggers. Get a hormone/med check if libido drops hard. Sometimes it’s physiological.
Once I did all that, the choice felt grounded instead of like I was performing loyalty to an idea.
I wasn’t celibate when we initially split as I thought i would follow the popular “wisdom” that the best way to get someone off your mind is to …yeah I’m sure you know the rest. Mind you, I wasn’t aware consciously of being a twin flame then. Oh by the way, it didn’t work, at all. In fact on a couple of occasions it could be described as disastrous and on one occasion dangerous. Now I’m celibate, my runner has recently made contact, we are supposed to be meeting in a few weeks at a restaurant, though I have no expectations as to outcome. I’m just over the moon he’s made contact and expressed his love for me when he did to be honest.
At present, I am still trying at least in theory to to stay open to the possibility of other connections, because who knows what will happen and I really don’t want to set my expectations too high for what will come of this meeting as I know we will eventually reach union anyway - so what’s the rush? However, basically I’ve pretty much realised if I can’t have him, honestly I don’t really want anyone else. If I did connect with anyone else, it would always be “less than”, I know that in my soul. So definitely a purely sexual encounter would be out of the question as what on earth would be the point? Maybe, maybe I’d go on a date with someone I liked enough - but I don’t even really want to do that if I’m honest. And I don’t need sex for the sake of it, definitely not, so casual encounters now are a complete no no.
I’m certainly happier being celibate at the moment if I can’t have him right now.
People on the outside call this ‘avoidance’ or ‘unhealthy attachment.’ We’re just at peace.
I would stop worrying about putting labels on things too much. Don’t think of it as being celibate or not. Think of it as taking some time for yourself.
The body knows what it wants and what it doesn’t. Sometimes what it doesn’t want is forced connection with people who drain you. Trust yourself on this one, OP. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for choosing stillness.
1000% agree with this
For me celibacy was never a vow or a decision. It just sort of happened
I set practical containers: no porn, no casual flirting, daily heart coherence and breathwork, then a weekly inner-union ritual where I just witness my needs without outsourcing them. The witnessing part honestly changed everything.
But I also keep clear boundaries so celibacy doesn’t become spiritual bypassing, because that happens more than people admit. I still practice healthy relating through friendships and honest communication (sometimes that’s harder than the celibacy itself).
And if you do choose this path, give it structure. Make it an offering.
I had been living “loyal” to the connection as we share some intense telepathic intimacy that to me, meant being true to one another while that is happening. The energy pathways stay WIDE open the rest of the time so you more easily feel your TF with others and there was NO WAY I was going to do that to him. Also the energy itself was so pure and beautiful I didnt want to “muddy” it up with a third party.
However he chose not to tell me he chose to be with others anyway, denying me an educated decision to continue sharing myself in that way or not. This forced me to reconsider.
Also I finally am filing for divorce (FINALLY got my Summons worked out to be delivered today! Something I had issues with) but that abusive relationship was over for 5 or so years, so I am eager to be loved and held after all this time. Still, I was happy to wait for him, be celibate, anything for this love.
But if he’s not doing that… men seem to notice me but I’ve been so focused on him I saw nothing else. Now I guess surrender entails being open to whatever, or whoever, Universe throws in my path. Will be hard though… he was all I wanted 
But in general, I do believe CHOSEN celibacy is smart for energetic reasons, as long as its not forced. But if Universe throws a 3rd party in your way, likely it’s for a reason.