Has anyone else sworn off other relationships and stayed celibate during separation?
Nobody else seems to do anything for me.
I have no desire to chase that kind of closeness with anyone else. Nothing even registers. The thought of giving my energy to someone new feels hollow, like going through motions that would mean nothing (which maybe sounds dramatic, but it’s the truth).
Curious if anyone else landed somewhere similar after their twin flame experience. Where being alone just felt right and not like something to fix.
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You are preserving or “saving” your energy in order to invest it in areas that better benefit your jouney or bring you into stronger alignment with your soul’s “urge”.
Nothing shameful about this practice. If fact, many see it as a form of self-mastery!
This is our second longer separation. We’ve separated before too, but those times lasted a month or two, or just days and weeks. Now it feels like we’re apart again for the second time in a deeper, longer way.
Since I met him, no one else exists for me. And it doesn’t feel like a choice, or like I’m denying myself something. It feels planted inside me — not desire, not lack — but a quiet sense that this is simply my truth.
He says that for him, life exists either with me or without me — but not with anyone else. We both share this feeling that being with someone else would somehow be a betrayal — of ourselves, of each other, of the love. But it’s not even about resisting temptation. There is no urge toward anyone else. There is only us.
At the same time, there is a deep feeling — an inner knowing, both in me and in him — that we will reunite one day. We don’t think about when. But we believe we will.
I have found peace. He is running. And everything I had to go through before I met him is still waiting for him to face.
I was celibate for most of my separation, but there is no rule that says you have to be. Somewhere there’s a thread where someone had a FWB situation where their own TF recently.
Don’t be celibate because you think you have to be or because you think you’re supposed to be. Or because you’re telling yourself that you can’t possibly be with anyone else.
I think there’s an energetic reason for this to be common (but I do agree, certainly not a rule).
Every time you’re intimate with someone you create cords with them, you absorb their energy, good and bad. Their karmic baggage, unresolved patterns, all of that transfers during sex. When you’ve done real healing work during separation, the last thing your system wants is to take on someone else’s stuff and undo all that progress.
Your energy stays cleaner when you’re not mixing it with people who aren’t on the same frequency.
Celibacy on its own doesn’t move anything forward. It’s a tool. It gives you space and time in your own energy. I see people fall into this trap where they just sit and wait, being celibate, hoping that’s somehow enough to bring union closer. It’s not.
Put the freed-up energy from not chasing physical connections into shadow work, meditation, healing old wounds. That’s what actually closes the gap.
We’re both married to other people, which… yeah. Complicated doesn’t even cover it. But I think this celibacy is temporary. My soul is waiting for when we can finally be together, and that reunion will be worth it.
It’s been 14 months and I can’t even imagine being with anyone else. Everything feels flat compared to that connection.
I went through exactly this after my twin and I split. Tried going on a date about 6 months in because my friends kept pushing me. Sat there the whole time thinking about how pointless it felt.
Even when I was burning through relationship after relationship, people who weren’t good for me, situations that were honestly just toxic distractions from what I was actually feeling, they were there the whole time.
It’s not even a sacrifice anymore… it just feels natural. I do get points where I can feel them thinking of me sexually, but I can mostly distract myself.
Yes, my twin flame and I are single for each other. I am not a virgin while she is, and my past upsets her. However, early on during separation I brutally rejected her which caused her to try dating other guys which backfired on her completely and I’ve held on to a lot of resentment towards her and she feels super guilty. Of course, I am ashamed of my own past and wish that I had saved myself.
Sometimes I wish I could just enjoy being in a normal relationship with a wonderful woman, but nobody comes close to her and I enjoy my own company. It’s annoying when people think something’s wrong with me cause I’m not dating around and pursuing women cause I’m in my 20s.
Almost three years celibate now, and honestly, my writing has never been this clear. All that energy just channels differently when you’re not trying to connect with someone else.
You don’t have to make it a forever decision. Just let it be what it needs to be right now.
Part of me worries I’m closing myself off completely. Maybe I will change my mind later, but I’m happy where I’m at. Did anyone eventually open up to dating again or is this pretty much the new normal for most people?
Now the karmic connections seem to have all burned away on my side (what a relief) and I know who my true twin is, I couldn’t even think of anyone else in that way. He visits me energetically at night, and is my last thought on sleeping and first on waking. That is how it will stay. I would be lying to the other person, him, and myself if I thought I could give them anything close to what I feel for him so, for all our sakes, I will not even try. He is my one and only.
I respect your experience, but I gotta say I think staying celibate the whole separation might be holding you back.
You might have an easier time getting back out there. It was hard at first but it taught me so much about what I actually want and helped me release some of the obsession.
Dating apps feel pointless now. Why even bother when nothing is ever going to come close to what we had. You just end up scrolling through people who feel like strangers in a way that goes deeper than them actually being strangers.
The whole thing leaves me feeling exposed and stupid.
Being done with all of it sounds like relief at this point. Maybe the first real relief in a while. Never having to put myself through that again.
She’s been with someone else for two years now. And I’ve been celibate since May 2022, not by force or anything. It’s just that nobody else registers. Nobody.
The contrast is kind of strange when I actually sit with it, because her path went one direction and mine went somewhere completely different.
Her being in a relationship doesn’t mean that it’s good for her. For all you know, she’s simply staying because it’s “familiar” and you are pushing so she isn’t focused on you romantically.
Personally, my twin flame and I are dead-set on celibacy as being a value that is fundamental to us, and we believe that a vast majority of relationships and intimate encounters that occur on this planet between humans are not in alignment with most people’s souls.
I am going to challenge you because when it comes to twin flames, you both already know what you two want. Seldom have I heard distracting oneself with others helps release the obsession, usually it’s the other way around for a true twin flame bond; dating and sleeping with others usually creates guilt and even more intense longing.
You don’t need to “explore yourself” to find out what you want and like, because your soul already knows that.
I denied what my TF meant to me for years. And now I’m finally free from forcing myself to feel things for other men that just… aren’t there. It’s him or no one.
No one else has ever truly satisfied me. Not physically, not emotionally. I used to blame myself, call it frigidity, chalk it all up to past trauma. But I haven’t genuinely wanted anyone since meeting him, and once I stopped fighting that this enormous weight just lifted.
Your experience connects so deeply with mine. Being alone doesn’t need fixing when it feels this right.
