I would like to share something. It’s for anyone out there who needs to see it. I have been on a whirlwind three year journey. We separated three times. Always stayed in contact until this last one. I have been a very spiritual person my whole life so a year in when I discovered twin flames I was like a dog with a bone. I don’t work right now so I decided to spend most of my waking moments to get it done and get the hell to the good parts. First mistake. Not for the me part but for the hurry the hell up buddy because we got a life to live part. It’s been three months of seperation no contact this time and although now when I look back at my readings I had plenty of warning for this last one. I kept wondering why Danielle kept talking about my broken heart. I mean things weren’t great but my heart was doing pretty good. Until it wasn’t. One day he helped me get my earring on and said goodbye when he headed for work. we had a little fight later via texts. No big thing. But I woke up to his garage door on the counter and that’s it. Gone without a word. I have never had my heart broken before by a man. I never gave any the chance. So yeah that okay heart was now destroyed. Shredded. But I stayed as positive as I could and deep dived into my pain. Now three months later with the sole help of my angels and my readings I finally made it. I’m completely healed. I know everything there is to know about me. I know the exact reasons for every negative thing in my life. I even know why my mom abused me and even though I had forgiven it years ago I know the why part. It made me love and miss her more than I have since she passed and we were in a very good place back then. Im happier than I have been in my whole life. Im whole and this journey has been amazing in that regard. I was a lazy spiritual person until I met him. But when I want something I will not stop until I get it. My heart feels fine right now and I have let him go. It was hard to do it properly because I know we are going to be together again this lifetime. It was even harder to let go of trying to control the timeline and many other stupid things I did to hurry this along. I, up to that point I was also still in pain but it was getting better. I was feeling pretty cocky because I thought I was done. Healed. So bring me these damn blessings I have worked so hard for. Then I get a reading. Oh no ego woman. you are definitely not done. I realized I hadn’t completely let go or stopped trying to control things. So back to the drawing board on this whole letting go thing. I figured it out though and did it. Holy crap if anyone says this is easy they are an idiot.But now I am free of the old version of him. I know he is working very hard on himself to come back to me but that is not as important anymore. I, WITH VERY MUCH HELP HEALED MY OWN HEART. I feel so amazing. Finally!!! I’m sorry to say I don’t have my ending with him yet. But what I do have is my beginning. My chance to live a life I never thought possible as a healed and whole human being. And while I really do wish he would hurry up I no longer care about the when. So what I want you to get from this is do the work. Saving yourself is more important than anything. Even your twin. Why? Because nothing is ever going to happen until you are healed. And if your poor twin never catches up in this life you will be left with an amazing new life that is better than anything you could hope for. But the best part of all, it’s pain free. So please believe me because I can’t bare the thought of anyone, even complete strangers in that kind of pain. Remember this is really all about love. So love yourself enough to do the work. Take your own pain away. You have that power so use it.
This will probably resonate with a lot of people.
The reason separation feels so different from regular heartbreak is that it’s designed to break down those ego walls we’ve built our whole lives. Your twin mirrors back everything unhealed, and the pain forces you to finally look at it. That’s why shadow work during separation is so critical. You’re confronting every wound, pattern, and unhealed aspect that’s been hiding in your subconscious.
A lot of people skip over forgiveness work or do it superficially (which is the same thing as skipping it), but when you understand the “why” behind someone’s behavior and can forgive from that place of true understanding, something shifts at the soul level. Practices like Ho’oponopono can be powerful here because you’re not asking the other person to forgive you - you’re asking forgiveness for your own misperceptions.
You healed your own heart. That’s inner union. That’s what makes physical union even possible, and if it never happens in this lifetime, you still have yourself fully.
Yeah… a pattern I think others reading this will probably have seen too.
First, you thought you were done, felt cocky about it, then got humbled real quick when you realized you were still trying to control things. Happens to most of us. That’s the difference between intellectual understanding and true surrender. Surrender isn’t one moment - it’s something you practice daily, like you said. It’s releasing control while still doing your work, which sounds contradictory but that’s the whole point. You stop chasing the outcome, but you don’t stop growing.
We call it a “surrender stage” but it is more a state of being.
The vibrational frequency piece matters. Every time you heal a wound, release a pattern, or dissolve an ego block, your frequency shifts. Your twin feels that at the soul level because you’re energetically connected. That’s why focusing on them doesn’t help, but focusing on yourself does - you’re literally changing the energetic dynamic of the connection through your own healing.
I’m pleased for you. Can’t wait to see what happens next in your path.
A lot of teachings skip over how genuinely devastating this experience is, as if you just think positive enough, it won’t hurt probably because it isn’t popular to talk about on social media. But you’re right - this kind of pain is its own category. When you’ve never let anyone close enough to break your heart before and then your twin flame does it, there’s nothing else like it.
Your heart chakra is breaking open, not just breaking. All that pain is clearing out old programming, ancestral wounds, past life stuff that’s been stored in your energy body. The heart has to crack open to let the light in. That’s the catalyst instead of just spiritually bypassing the hurt.
What you described about understanding why your mom abused you and then loving her more - that’s deep shadow work and forgiveness integrated. That’s the kind of healing that changes your frequency permanently. You didn’t just forgive on the surface, you understood at the soul level, which means you freed yourself from carrying that wound forward. The readings helped guide you but you did the actual work. They can point you toward what needs healing, but you have to be willing to go into those dark places in yourself and sit with what you find there. Most people aren’t willing. You were.