I would like to share something. It’s for anyone out there who needs to see it. I have been on a whirlwind three year journey. We separated three times. Always stayed in contact until this last one. I have been a very spiritual person my whole life so a year in when I discovered twin flames I was like a dog with a bone. I don’t work right now so I decided to spend most of my waking moments to get it done and get the hell to the good parts. First mistake. Not for the me part but for the hurry the hell up buddy because we got a life to live part. It’s been three months of seperation no contact this time and although now when I look back at my readings I had plenty of warning for this last one. I kept wondering why Danielle kept talking about my broken heart. I mean things weren’t great but my heart was doing pretty good. Until it wasn’t. One day he helped me get my earring on and said goodbye when he headed for work. we had a little fight later via texts. No big thing. But I woke up to his garage door on the counter and that’s it. Gone without a word. I have never had my heart broken before by a man. I never gave any the chance. So yeah that okay heart was now destroyed. Shredded. But I stayed as positive as I could and deep dived into my pain. Now three months later with the sole help of my angels and my readings I finally made it. I’m completely healed. I know everything there is to know about me. I know the exact reasons for every negative thing in my life. I even know why my mom abused me and even though I had forgiven it years ago I know the why part. It made me love and miss her more than I have since she passed and we were in a very good place back then. Im happier than I have been in my whole life. Im whole and this journey has been amazing in that regard. I was a lazy spiritual person until I met him. But when I want something I will not stop until I get it. My heart feels fine right now and I have let him go. It was hard to do it properly because I know we are going to be together again this lifetime. It was even harder to let go of trying to control the timeline and many other stupid things I did to hurry this along. I, up to that point I was also still in pain but it was getting better. I was feeling pretty cocky because I thought I was done. Healed. So bring me these damn blessings I have worked so hard for. Then I get a reading. Oh no ego woman. you are definitely not done. I realized I hadn’t completely let go or stopped trying to control things. So back to the drawing board on this whole letting go thing. I figured it out though and did it. Holy crap if anyone says this is easy they are an idiot.But now I am free of the old version of him. I know he is working very hard on himself to come back to me but that is not as important anymore. I, WITH VERY MUCH HELP HEALED MY OWN HEART. I feel so amazing. Finally!!! I’m sorry to say I don’t have my ending with him yet. But what I do have is my beginning. My chance to live a life I never thought possible as a healed and whole human being. And while I really do wish he would hurry up I no longer care about the when. So what I want you to get from this is do the work. Saving yourself is more important than anything. Even your twin. Why? Because nothing is ever going to happen until you are healed. And if your poor twin never catches up in this life you will be left with an amazing new life that is better than anything you could hope for. But the best part of all, it’s pain free. So please believe me because I can’t bare the thought of anyone, even complete strangers in that kind of pain. Remember this is really all about love. So love yourself enough to do the work. Take your own pain away. You have that power so use it.
This will probably resonate with a lot of people.
The reason separation feels so different from regular heartbreak is that it’s designed to break down those ego walls we’ve built our whole lives. Your twin mirrors back everything unhealed, and the pain forces you to finally look at it. That’s why shadow work during separation is so critical. You’re confronting every wound, pattern, and unhealed aspect that’s been hiding in your subconscious.
A lot of people skip over forgiveness work or do it superficially (which is the same thing as skipping it), but when you understand the “why” behind someone’s behavior and can forgive from that place of true understanding, something shifts at the soul level. Practices like Ho’oponopono can be powerful here because you’re not asking the other person to forgive you - you’re asking forgiveness for your own misperceptions.
You healed your own heart. That’s inner union. That’s what makes physical union even possible, and if it never happens in this lifetime, you still have yourself fully.
Yeah… a pattern I think others reading this will probably have seen too.
First, you thought you were done, felt cocky about it, then got humbled real quick when you realized you were still trying to control things. Happens to most of us. That’s the difference between intellectual understanding and true surrender. Surrender isn’t one moment - it’s something you practice daily, like you said. It’s releasing control while still doing your work, which sounds contradictory but that’s the whole point. You stop chasing the outcome, but you don’t stop growing.
We call it a “surrender stage” but it is more a state of being.
The vibrational frequency piece matters. Every time you heal a wound, release a pattern, or dissolve an ego block, your frequency shifts. Your twin feels that at the soul level because you’re energetically connected. That’s why focusing on them doesn’t help, but focusing on yourself does - you’re literally changing the energetic dynamic of the connection through your own healing.
I’m pleased for you. Can’t wait to see what happens next in your path.
A lot of teachings skip over how genuinely devastating this experience is, as if you just think positive enough, it won’t hurt probably because it isn’t popular to talk about on social media. But you’re right - this kind of pain is its own category. When you’ve never let anyone close enough to break your heart before and then your twin flame does it, there’s nothing else like it.
Your heart chakra is breaking open, not just breaking. All that pain is clearing out old programming, ancestral wounds, past life stuff that’s been stored in your energy body. The heart has to crack open to let the light in. That’s the catalyst instead of just spiritually bypassing the hurt.
What you described about understanding why your mom abused you and then loving her more - that’s deep shadow work and forgiveness integrated. That’s the kind of healing that changes your frequency permanently. You didn’t just forgive on the surface, you understood at the soul level, which means you freed yourself from carrying that wound forward. The readings helped guide you but you did the actual work. They can point you toward what needs healing, but you have to be willing to go into those dark places in yourself and sit with what you find there. Most people aren’t willing. You were.
when I redirected that energy I had for my twin into exploring my own stuff-meditation and dream work mostly-I started getting clearer about what wounds needed healing. that self-knowledge helped me do the inner work.
I learned the hard way that a lot of the twin flame content out there kept me stuck in codependent patterns instead of actually healing. Once I stopped consuming all that and focused on myself like you did, it got a lot easier.
I think what made this all happen relatively quickly was my determination to do this alone. I had my readings. Huge help. I had all my signs and synchronicities and I would look up the meanings when they appeared. I learned to meditate and explored other ways of enlightenment as well. I was a year in before I knew what a twin flame was. By then I had already been working hard on myself and was seeing results. So I made a conscience decision to not go on any forums or read about anyone else’s experience until I felt strong enough to not be susceptible to others influence. Especially since I didn’t feel equipped enough to sift through the minutia. So it wasn’t until three months ago when he left for the third time that I finally felt like I needed to hear from others. That probably isn’t the way to go for most, but it sure seemed to work for me.
my real healing started when I stopped trying to manifest contact or control the outcome and just focused on my own inner work that switch from trying to make something happen to just letting it go was when things actually started changing for me.
This is a good idea and I’m surprised you don’t hear it more.
Actually… is it me or does it feel like most people here have been on the journey a while already? Nobody shows up day one like “wtf is a twin flame?” maybe there’s something inate in that.
I really like your approach, seems healthy and grounded. You trusted yourself first and built that foundation before opening up to outside perspectives - that takes serious self-awareness and courage. Some people thrive with community support from day one, others need that solo deep-dive first. Neither is wrong, but knowing yourself well enough to choose your own path? That’s the real work right there.
Thank you for this! I think I needed to read this today. The last couple days I’ve been experiencing bad chest pain/deep ache and palpitations, yesterday it eased off in the morning and hasn’t come back so far. Today I feel deep sadness and keep bursting into tears on and off.
Maybe the chest pain was my heart cracking open to get myself to see myself.
It could be my wishful thoughts or imagination but I felt like I saw myself and Twins higher self in my head telling me that the seal has broken and it’s now coming out. They were telling me that I’ve always been strong and that I need to see myself and let go.
Yesterday flashes of images of colourful fantasy artworks appeared in my head and I was told I’m a creator, and I need to create. The word create kept appearing and so I drew something that wasn’t realism and wasn’t following a photo reference(I’m an artist working in realistic pet portrait commissions), and I was told not to draw it out with pencil first, to just take the risk and draw with my pens. So I winged it with my black felt tipped pen and polychromos colour pencils. I made a couple of mistakes at first and felt like I needed to give up, I felt like I wasn’t good enough, but was told to keep going, so I did. I managed to find a way to turn those mistakes into something that made it better, and I ended up with something that I thoroughly enjoyed and needed to do. I felt like I for once created my own art, rather than just copying photos, and denying my creativity. I think i found my style and what i’ve been craving, honestly. I might have to start drawing fantasy inbetween my commissions now, and see where it goes from there. I’m also reading more and have been testing writing out my own fantasy story.
Back to the feeling sad today, I found the reason I feel this way is due to feeling like I’m not independent(I make less than minimum wage so far, I’m on my learners license as a 35 year old, I have chronic fatigue so everything is slow going and hard, and I feel like I can’t leave my relationship yet as I rely on him), feeling like I’m going in circles and will never be good enough. I think I’ve just been really hard on myself all these years and felt like I expected myself to be perfect, and so if I’m behind others, or struggle, or didn’t reach perfection, then I’m a failure and not good enough.
I was reminded about the mistake i made in my artwork, and to keep going, I was reminded that I was about to give up but made something good by keep going instead. I realized mistakes, and feeling like I’ve failed, is all part of it to show me I can turn it into something bigger and better and more beautiful, and that it belongs. It’s meant to be there to help me become better and stronger and to find myself.
I went on Facebook and one of those “the first three words you find is what you need to hear” things popped up, and I got ‘Create, hope, and believe’ which I found fitting.
Below is the artwork I did yesterday.
We have the power and the responsibility.
daily affirmations and gratitude practices have helped me a lot. Trying to understand more about shadow work journaling.
Even when I’m doing everything right, those moments of weakness still hit. I don’t really know if that’s part of the process or if I’m just messing up somehow. I try to stay present and find gratitude in those wobbly moments but it’s not always easy.
I love how you mentioned the power of self-help resources in your healing path!
I read a book that completely shifted my perspective on my own worth and abilities, and it really sped up my healing. Suddenly I wasn’t just waiting for my twin, I was becoming the version of me that’s ready for our reunion.
The right tools at the right time can make such a difference when it comes to doing the inner work.