I’m curious as to what everyone considers separation to be. Is it a physical distance? Does it begin from the last time you spoke with them consistently? Or is separation from the time you last saw your twin in person? I ask because on my follow-up questions here, the length of time I’ve been in separation with my twin would vary based on the answers.
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I think for me, separation is when you and your Twin are not in union. When one Twin is awakened, and the other is not yet - this seems to be a common dynamic with Twin Flames. I feel that even if you are in constant contact with your Twin, it can also be a form of separation if one Twin is still not awakened yet, and the healing/growth has not been completed.
Separation vs No Contact for me is very different, but I don’t feel that physical distance really counts as separation - example, if both Twins are awakened and navigating the complexities of a long distance relationship, that wouldn’t really be considered separation to me.
Just my two penny’s worth on the topic 
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I believe I have been in separation with my true Twin Flame for hundreds, if not thousands of lifetimes. Yet my feelings for her haven’t moved even a iota. I still love her with all my essence.
No matter the physical distance, no matter the time, even no matter the number of other partners each of you has the true love connection you have with your True One never breaks, never fades, never bends. But what could and does bend is your perception of each other. That is where true separation lies (at least I think so). You may live next door to each other, even be in relationship with each other, but if that awareness of each other disappears your true connection is in jeopardy. And if that happens, you separate. For real. For example, that is what I think has happened to my connection since many many many lifetimes. I wasn’t enough for my Twin Flame a long long long time ago (then I was the female and she was the male) so he went out to “try out” connection with different souls. Our love bent, our feelings faded, our connection broke. That is how the twilight of separation shadowed our relationship. I believe that is the same with any Twin Flame relationship actually. One of the twins tries out some sh*t with other souls and leaves the other partner in disarray. And then the two parties start cheating and sneaking and smearing each other. They drift apart and they loose something precious. No matter what these random relationships with other souls could bring the two become hurt by their mutual actions. They are lamed by the lack of love and true light amongst them. This is what I think true separation looks like. Not the physical, temporal or even other relationships effect on the mutual feelings of the two partners but the act of voluntarily forgetting and even further-severing, the connection with your beloved. If that happens you are in separation. However, if that connection stays strong you aren’t separated by anything-not space, not time, not even other souls trying to butt in your connection.
That is how I feel about the topic. What are your questions?
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That’s actually a really good point! I never considered it from the idea of it being about twins be awakened. I met my twin when I knew I was a twin flame, but thought it was someone else. It wasn’t until some time last year where I woke up to the knowing that it was she who was my twin flame.
I guess I tend to view separation as a very clear lack of contact, but there is usually an energy shift beforehand. For example, I suddenly became extremely anxious and afraid when I ran from her back in 2024. And the most recent time around, there was a shift in her tone towards me before we stopped talking late last year. I haven’t heard from her since.
So, whether or not that’s separation or no contact, I don’t know, but you’ve given me a lot to think about!
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That is an interesting perspective! So, you would say that a true separation is when the connection is forgotten in some way?
The connection isn’t merely forgotten but willfully ignored by at least one of the partners. The more correct word would actually be that it’s “stomped out” by the partner who chooses to abandon it for whatever the reason.That is when the true hurt of separation starts. This partner willingly chooses to destroy something precious for the sake of other short term gain or anything else and thus runs away from the most intense growth experience s/he could live through. If that partner is still on a very low consciousness level the pain felt could be dumbed down by other material pleasures be it drugs, alcohol, sex or whatever but if the partner is all in on the spiritual aspects of the relationship there is no way s/he could ever forget that pain and run back to the old modus operandi. The crux of the problem is understanding, it always is. If the said runner partner understands the depth and weight of the connection s/he won’t be in true separation even if they lay thousands of miles apart, have been separated for a million years or was forced into having sex with a thousand persons. Separation comes only from within when one of the parties makes the conscious choice of refusing to be in the relationship. Or, at least, that is how I think.
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I like this question. Up to now, have considered it to be a situation where twins are not in consistent communication with each other and at least one of them is running, so to speak. The replies to this topic have opened my eyes to other potential meanings, though.
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We have separated a few times. Never no contact. The one I’m in now is no contact after a very cruel departure. That is seperation. To be united and living together. To be as close as you could possibly be with someone. To have intimacy like you only dreamed was possible. To have shared life altering things together. Rarely have a disagreement about anything. To look at someone and just be blown away by the love in their eyes reflecting back at you. Not just once in awhile. But every time they look at you. To make plans for the future together. Then have them just leave. Without a word. never to be heard from again. five months now. That is seperation. Forgiving that. Well that’s unconditional love. Im sorry to say this. But I don’t think most people can even comprehend that kind of seperation. So to most of you out there……look at this and maybe your seperation might not seem so bad after all.
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I feel that everyone’s journey is different and the reasons behind what we each go through is probably because we have different lessons to learn. I imagine anyone who is awakened and going through some kind of separation (be it no contact, the push pull dynamic, being a third party, one party not being awakened, running etc) they are all painful for different reasons. I don’t feel one situation is better than another
Example, I met a friend via the old forum and we have become each other’s companions on this journey. When we first started talking, her Twin had completely blocked her on every single way of contact/socials, whereas my Twin was just flat out running/ignoring my existence/no contact. She and her Twin live in the same city, my Twin and I live in different countries. We would always talk about how we would feel so much better if we could just talk to our Twins again. Just talk. Right?
In October last year, my Twin reemerged and has stayed orbiting my life since. I thought I’d feel better, happier, more relieved. But this existence of having him come and go from my life when he wants has triggered my abandonment anxiety because a part of my brain feels like he could just up and leave at any moment again
Both situations are so different, yet my friend and I would agree are equally painful.
I am sorry for what you are going through now. But at least you got to actually be with your Twin in the same house, sharing a life and actually being together. For my friend and I, we never got a chance to experience that with our Twins. And I am not saying any situation is better or worse. But there is definitely a reason why we all have to go through the pain we experience on this journey. The only way out is through, right? 
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All these answers are so enlightening and varied. For me, personally, I consider us to be in no contact. If we bumped into each other, which can happen relatively frequently, perhaps every 6 weeks or so, we are friendly, chatty and I feel like we’re the only 2 people in the room. But I consider us no contact as there’s no purposeful contact. No messages, calls or arrangements to meet up. Conversations are surface level. And I feel separation has been since he ghosted and ran back in August.
It’s interesting to see that others here probably wouldn’t consider our situation no contact or maybe wouldn’t even see it as separation. I think some of it can be a feeling of disconnect, or possibly just of no full connection with someone whom it feels it should be so simple with, and yet it feels needlessly complicated and painful. I keep thinking of the obstacles in his life, but know that this is just the illusion and it’s merely the 5d and higher self that is clearing the way.
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My thoughts exactly. I figured it was when there was a clear lapse in communication with one twin running, at least. However, I have a lot to consider now.
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