I’ve learned that I often manipulate situations to see myself as a victim. It took a long time to be able to admit that to myself, let alone other people.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve struggled with self-loathing. I tend to enter relationships with those who either don’t like me or become suffocatingly attached. When those relationships end, I always blame them, convincing myself that I’m meant to suffer while others thrive.
I’ve been aware of these issues but ignored them while keeping busy. Since our separation, I’ve had more time to reflect, and I’m working to understand my feelings without victimizing myself or blaming others.
I used to think of separation as a punishment or a sign that I messed up. But now I see it as the only way to tackle all the inner stuff I had been ignoring for ages. The pain from that split really opened my eyes. Honestly, the person I was before that relationship wouldn’t have been able to grow as I did after.
I’ve relearned the entire concept of love.
Unfortunately, I grew up in a difficult family environment, which led me to develop a wrong concept of love and an anxious attachment style.
My twin flame journey has brought all of that to light. I’ve been able to work on it, and now I understand love in a healthy way and with a secure attachment. I’ve also learned that this doesn’t mean to do it perfect, but rather knowing how to recognize and manage it.
Hello, everyone. I’ve been reading perspectives, insights and I’ve found myself in many of your comments. I wish to create this topic—so perhaps we find more wisdom and connection in this journey.
I think the biggest lesson for me has been to detach from labels. They can be useful but also detrimental. And to listen to your own inner voice. Of course It’s easier said than done, and it obviously looks different to everyone but it’s a big, big lesson. It has been for me when I was lost and wandering and suppressing my own communication to my higher self and the ‘Divine’. It looks unique and different to each one of us despite what others say or tell us. I also used to compare my journey a lot to others when it didn’t fit in a set of rules or patterns. But I also have learned objectivity can be very important, too and sometimes you have to not let yourself float like a lost balloon in the sky without any direction.
Up until my “fated encounter” I’ve always approched life with a strong sense of rationality and logic or “cause and effect” if you will, but the more I progress through this journey I find that things are simply chaotic and unpredictable. They don’t seem to follow any pattern.
We on our own in this world. Life is random: deal you a full house, or busted flush. - Remy LeBeau (Gambit)