This is super common but doesn’t make it any easier to deal wit.
Most don’t meet or reunite until after 40, and by then a lot of people have kids, a mortgage, in-laws, the whole life built. Being married is just normal. The universe drops this awakening at midlife because that’s when self-reflection hits hardest, with the most to lose. Those marriages are usually with soulmates or karmic partners, genuinely loving and stable, nothing to dismiss. But it’s a different frequency.
Soulmates complement and flow. Twins mirror your wounds, fears, all your buried stuff. Both feel the difference eventually (one might take longer).
Guilt is the killer when both are married: that illogical pull against real responsibilities to your lives.
Society doesn’t get it. It sees it through a normal lens, ramps up the pressure. I’ve seen couples separate for a while (sometimes long) due to guilt and opposition.
If those relationships aren’t meant to last, they won’t, even without you forcing it. Focus inward: your healing and growth. That’s what moves things forward.