What should a Chaser do when she finds out that Runner cheated on her. 
Me and my runner were in a happy relationship at the beginning of our journey; that was about 3 years ago. But we broke up after 7-8 months of dating. And it ended with him ghosting me (running away).
I did all my inner work and everything. We went through separation after separation until my runner realised his fault and confessed (a few months back) that he had cheated on me during the end of our first relationship. Not even with one but multiple partners. He was loyal to me for the first 6 months but not after that.
He is in regret and probably going through his DNOTS. But I am stuck here. I want to forgive him and start fresh. But something in me, probably the hurt and fear, is holding me back.
Even if it was all his unhealed wounds and trauma that led him to run away and cheat like this, I can’t possibly overlook the fact that he had cheated on me!
What should I do if he ever comes back and ask for another chance? Can the twin flame love be enough to forget what he did??
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I’m so sorry that you had to experience that. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be to learn of his indiscretions. What I’ve always believed is that nothing you do can ever ruin a Twin Flame connection. We make mistakes, and it sounds like he probably looked outside of your relationship due to ego and unhealed inner wounds. Forgiving him may be a part of your own journey as well; they say our Twins always mirror back to us lessons we need to learn. Is there something in your life that you may have done that you need to forgive yourself for, that you may have found unforgivable?
I hope you find peace on your journey 
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I’m not looking to be harsh, but the painful truth is that his actions show just how much appreciation he has for your relationship.
If he does return you can choose to give him another chance if you believe his behaviour has changed and he’s become more open, expressive and communicative towards his true wants and needs.
After all, the main reason why men cheat is because they don’t feel appreciated or validated enough. So while I’m sure you’ve put effort in that regard in the past, they also need to reciprocate that effort.
Or you can kick him to the curb if you discover that he still acts the same way as before, lusting after other partners.
At the end of the day, you can’t create true love without being truthful and honest.
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This can be very painful…You would have intuitively known that it was happening…. The journey is about us… every action they do ( sometimes cheating, lying, ghosting) is reflecting some healing to do till one comes in the place of unconditional love.. The thing is, the forgiveness is not something straightforward like a 3D relationship and make a fresh start rightaway… they will usually keep showing the pattern and cycles will repeat till you have Completely healed and transmuted it… It is hard to digest and understand that what they are showing is the fear, negativity, abandonment that is within our subconsious ..and look at it like a regular equation and simply say it’s their unhealed wounds and trauma.. yes they do have healing to do.. but not in the way the DF/chaser will heal… their vibrational state is reflective if your deep subcounsious too… Go within, divine will pave the path.. you’ve got this!
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