Couldn’t agree more. Im having the whole attractive thing too lol.
Just wanted to add that active forgiveness work was a missing piece for me. Not just forgiving your twin for triggering you, but forgiving yourself for how you’ve handled things. The desperate texts you sent, the times you ignored your intuition, staying too long or pulling away too fast.
That self-forgiveness piece unlocked more than months of shadow work alone.
Thank you for your advice 
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I have been immersing myself in all of this.
I was quite calm to start with separation, as I intuitively knew it was a pause. I knew it couldn’t go on like it was, so I was ok with it. I went through a DNOTS. I started observing and my emotions began to stabilise. I started to see this in a different way. This is when I really started my journey of self-awareness and self-love. It began with meditation and I understood that I needed more help.
I was led to pranic healing, which I had done a level one course in twenty years earlier. The first session helped immensely, and I’m going again in two days’ time. I’m really focused on myself and my own awakening, and I really feel good. I’m walking, meditating, practicing intermittent fasting and writing my story. I’ve been able to see this situation now through very different eyes, and I know that I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be. I’m not concerned about union, as I know it will happen in divine timing if it’s meant to happen.
Thank you for your beautiful words.
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Most people don’t know how to do the inner work and they get too focused on the wrong things. So many people post about this stuff all day on socials but will never move one iota closer to actual union.
Nobody talks about how career and financial stability are literally part of inner work. Building a life you’re proud of, independent of them, shifts your energy more than any meditation retreat.
That can also be a trap, though. You can’t just fling yourself into work with the same idea of just distratcting yourself but I do think having a well rounded life and growth in every area matters.
I used to think inner work was just a vague buzzword but it can also just be the basics: writing down something I’m grateful for each day, forgiving myself for small mistakes, reminding my inner child it’s okay to feel hurt.
Breathing slowly through a panic or taking a short walk-that counts too. I’m still figuring it out, but I’ve noticed some small shifts lately. Bit by bit, I’m feeling more okay, building some peace within myself first, twin or not.
Too real. I would suggest we pin it, but nobody is really listening anyway.
They don’t get it. Don’t seem to have the capacity to even try. I don’t think people have a single idea how rare reaching union is. Or they think they know and they’re deluding themselves into thinking they’re somehow special.
Out of the hundreds (maybe thousands?) of people here I think there are about 5 that are in actual union. All people who focused on actual growth and not “what shape is that cloud… it kind of looks like his face!”.
The twin flame community is a wasted opportunity and a den of failure.
For those who don’t know, @MrsClaus is in union and for those who don’t understand they’re pointing out that 99.9% of you (which means you the person reading this thread are guilty of this too) are not doing the one thing that can actually end your separation.
“I’m meditating all the time!”
Not even close. You’re not even kidding yourself with this one. You caught on to one happy little buzz word that lets you tell yourself it will all be okay.
I wouldn’t call people ‘a den of failure’ when their lives have been turned upside down, inside out and things they had never known to be possible, ending up happening. I don’t think there are any dumb questions either, it’s all learning after all.
Part of our journey is to love and heal, right?
From what I’ve been reading, even if it’s small changes, they’re (myself included) have been slowly but surely transforming and bettering themselves. Maybe not at the speed you want them to, but I for one feel for them all and hope they keep going.
It’s not a easy journey as you know, especially with all the conflicting messages out there. And every one goes through the stage of ‘what’s this? What does this mean? Oh wow this weird thing happened!’ It’s exciting and scary and confusing amd exhausting and painful and amazing, so it’s understandable that they’re going to talk about these things(i have myself as well! I’m still learning lol)
We can’t expect people to get into perfect union within a year. I look back and I’m still shocked at the changes that have happened in my life, inside and out, and how fast things are progressing, but all we can do is keep at it and keep growing. Union may happen in a year, or two, or three, or in the next lifetime… depending on the person, it may take a long time. Just send them love, and positivity, and things will go as they’re meant to.
Peace!
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Inner work taught me something important: balancing my inner masculine and feminine energies. Whenever I lean too hard into fix-it mode (my masculine side), I pause and do something nurturing (my feminine side), like journaling or gentle movement.
Embracing that yin-yang balance helped me feel more whole.
I can see where a lot of this trauma comes from in my past and I don’t know if knowing about it makes it any easier to deal with but at least I have a starting point.
Thanks for sharing!
This is so important because there is so much BS out there that harms more than they heal. The most beautiful thing is when you can let everything be what it is and observe and love it. You feel him? Great, you think about him, that’s ok to, you cry about him, let it out, be kind to yourself, sit with all that comes up.
There is no right or wrong.
What happens when you don’t see any improvement even if you’re doing a lot of inner work?
I’ve been in separation 9 months. I was already in weekly therapy when it all happened and it’s been invaluable. I’ve processed so much stuff from the relationship, the breakup, my childhood, previous relationships but I don’t feel any happier. A lot of the advise I see asks you to fall in love with yourself and your life but it’s very difficult sometimes. I do love myself but I can’t help to feel that I don’t love my life at all. I live in a foreign country, no family around and I’m a single mum with 2 kids who are my world. I love them so much and I’m so grateful to have them but they both have special needs and it’s a struggle. My marriage to Theo dad was plagued with psychological abuse and even after divorce I still have to deal with him and he’s of no use as a parent so it’s a constant battle with him and with the system to get my kids any help. I live in a town with zero things going on for single people my age on the only times I get to myself. I can’t move because of the kids. My friends (all married mums) pretty much disappeared 4 months after the breakup because my DNOTS was making them uncomfortable, they didn’t want me to mention my twin, they don’t like hearing about my issues with my kids’ dad because it’s infuriating and any mention to something remotely spiritual was met with comments of ‘you’re delusional and obsessive, just stop thinking about him and move on’ - so I could literally just talk about my job and the weather. Somatic work and meditation have helped me to learn to feel my feelings and emotions but to also get out of the ego and tap into intuition, not attach a story to the emotion, just to let it pass through me. I also hired a life coach and I’ve learned a lot about myself, my core values, what I want and don’t want and what I’m no longer willing to sacrifice for anyone but I still feel trapped in a life I’m not able to change and some days it’s inevitable falling into the trap of thinking that I’m failing miserably at this and I’ll never reach union because of the impossibility of creating a happy life in unhappy circumstances.
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Funny what you said about q****a! I was going to come.on here and ask if it has been helpful.for anyone? I pour over the articles, but half the time (actually, probably.more) it’s a response from.someone either giving a .opinion from.their personal.story that doesn’t fully answer the question posed, or it’s some.utter nonsense (imo) that I do not trust at all. Every now and then, i feel, there is a gem of genuine advice. And yet what do I do when I get an email about TFs and what to do in a certain situation? Pour over all the comments, different questions and their comments and go down some.rabbit hole!
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Well, this journey is already confusing without us being judged. We need support not judgement. I feel so grateful with this forum, we could find advice, support, knowledge, even sharing our experience. Even, we could rant as long as we like.
I feel that nobody here will judge us, even if our path turn different in the end.
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