I am DF, awakened and almost healed. Recently, I got to know that my DM has also started his healing journey. He must be going through his inner works and all. I sense it in his words, his behaviour and energy. I truly appreciate and encourage it. A few days back, I saw him (we are students; I see him sometimes in his classroom while passing). He sat and behaved pretty normally but I felt like he is going through a rough phase.
It felt like he is lost. He is losing himself, he’s confused, he’s shocked and tired. Like he is trying to make sense of himself. He has gone all silent and kinda distanced himself from his friends, me and the whole world as it seems.
Others might not be able to sense it but I just kind of know it. And those collective twin flame energy forecasts and personal tarot readings says it too. But that’s not the only reason. I can feel the shift in his energy.
It feels like he has shifted into the background of the scene while usually he takes a good bit of the foreground. It feels like he is slowly slipping away out of this world.
I almost hate to see him crumbling under the weight of his wounds. I know it’s his own personal healing and I ‘must’ not interfere but I can’t help feel worried about him.
I am worried that something might go wrong. Or he might be so confused… like the way I was. It was pretty horrible for me and I don’t like the idea of seeing him going through it. But then I know it’s necessary if he’s to grow. Sometimes I feel like I should reach out (we are in talking terms) and ask him if he’s ok. But then I fear that I might push him further away.
What am I supposed to do? What is a DF supposed to do now?
Sounds like DNOTs for him. Everything he built his identity on, social status, confidence, how he shows up, is crumbling. That’s why he’s pulling back from everyone, including you. He’s losing his sense of self and scrambling to figure out who he is underneath it all.
I think DMs awaken differently than us DFs. We dive in willingly. They hit collapse, like a Tower moment. Their logic, control, independence fail, forcing them to face emotions they never processed. Without our spiritual framework, he probably just thinks he’s losing it.
I get the urge to reach out, but hold off. His path needs to be solo right now. Stepping in can trigger more resistance. Surrender is brutal for masculine energy. It feels like total dismantling.
But your role is to stay in that grounded, healed energy you built. It’s already catalyzing his shift. Hold steady, he’ll find his way, even if it takes time. You can’t walk it for him.
DM awakenings look different from ours. Masculines are wired for control and independence, so vulnerability hits like a threat. He’s learning to feel what he’s avoided his whole life. No wonder he seems lost. DF intuition picks up those energy shifts, even without contact. It’s heavy, distant, but still pulsing. That’s processing, not full resistance. You’re feeling the movement.
This sounds like a twin flame awakening to me. I think you just have to sit with it and keep doing whatever work has got you both to this point.
Trust your intuition about whether to reach out or not. Your energy staying grounded and whole is probably doing more for him than any words could right now. Wish someone had told me that earlier. The fact that you can sense his shift so clearly tells me you’re already supporting him on that energetic level.
The DF almost always awakens first. That’s just how it goes. She gets the 5D connection while the DM is still stuck in ego, chasing material stuff and usually easier karmic relationships instead of doing the actual work.
When separation hits, it triggers all her abandonment wounds. She faces that and heals through it. Which mirrors back. Eventually, the DM has to face his own shadows too (whether he wants to or not). Usually, only after his life starts falling apart because he kept ignoring every sign along the way.
The energy gets heavy. Have you picked up on any new telepathic messages from him lately? Like random phrases just popping into your head out of nowhere…
When your DM starts awakening, it rattles your energy field too, even if you feel done healing. It’s like a second wave. I thought I was finished, but nope. Grounding into my star origin helped me. I’m Pleiadian-rooted, my DM’s heavy Sirian, and his process had our energies bleeding together prematurely. If you know your starseed lineage, lean into those healing tools. They anchor you.
His awakening pulls on shared karmic threads, cracking open old wounds you thought were sealed. I would throw yourself into journaling or whatever tools got you to this point because something has been working if they are awakening.
Fear of rejection is blocking you here. If you were my twin and finally awakening, I’d want you to reach out with zero expectations, not some grand gesture, just pure love.
That’s really the only thing that breaks through anyway.