I found out my twin’s a Pisces and is marrying a Virgo, which is like their complete opposite sign. It got me thinking about how spirit sets up these tough paths for us. Sometimes, these astrological opposites in relationships really reflect what they’re avoiding in our connection, creating just the right amount of tension for them to eventually wake up.
That’s interesting. Mine also got married 11 months after we split up and then they got divorced after 11 months. Is there something about that timing?
I know the pain well.
I met and fell in love with my TF in college, but she only wanted to be friends so I buried my feelings. She married someone else and I buried my feelings even deeper. I accepted my loss, but after a couple years they separated because he was unfaithful and all my feelings bubbled back up. We tried to reconnect, but I was angry and didn’t know how to handle the situation or communicate well. I waited until their divorce was final before I went to finally tell her how I felt, but she was already with someone else. That was the last time I saw her thirteen years ago.
A year later I started dating my soulmate who eventually became my wife. A few months into dating, my TF reached out, but it had been a year and a half since I had heard from her and had already fallen in love with my wife. I told my TF that I thought we should end our friendship so we both could move on. I regret doing that. I wish I had handled the situation better.
We didn’t have any contact for ten years until I saw on Facebook that she got divorced from her second husband/father of her child. I reached out because I was worried about her and her heart. We exchanged a few messages, but since I was/am happily married, I kept contact to a minimum. Months later I decided to leave Facebook for good and the following week was when the TF synchronicities began.
Last year I saw that she got engaged again. I still worry about her, but I also hope the new guy is a good man, knows what an honor and a privilege it is to get to love her and be loved by her and helps her heal.
I’m sorry you’ve gone through a similar painful experience. The dynamic between TFs and soulmate spouses is difficult to navigate. I have zero advice, but I hope my commiseration is helpful in someway.
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I’m sorry you’re going through this 
I know the pain must be so difficult.
It could be, as others said, that the person they are marrying is a karmic, and will teach them things they need to know before they are ready.
I married, and am still with, my karmic. Learning this lesson with my karmic, I can see, is ESSENTIAL. I married him loooooong before I met my twin, and been through a lot with him (not all of it good or fun). But I know I would not have been ready to be with my twin without first being with my karmic.
I can’t say this is your journey, but just something to think about. 
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