I had noticed lately that no matter how hard I try, I CAN’T CONNECT with anyone the way I did with my twin.
I met a girl recently and she’s everything I’d want in a best friend. She is funny, crazy, kind and gets me in ways no other friend does. She considers me as her best friends and we often confess that we are really best for each other.
But I feel guilty that I am not able to connect with her as much as I did with my twin. Not that I am reluctant to give into her but I can’t. Somehow I can’t. I even feel like I give much effort, time and love to this friendship and yet… the connection with my twin seems to outrun it. Like no matter how far we are or how many months of separation we ensure, no other connection (friends and families) can even try to take that place.
Like no matter what kind of friendship I might try to build, deep down I know that my twin flame connection is going to outrun it. That it won’t be as good as this bond. That this bond can never be stronger than my twin flame’s.
I feel strangely detached to every single friend of mine yet I feel my twin’s constant presence in the background of my life.
I don’t really have an answer for you but I thought reading, why do you feel guilty? And that maybe this new friendship doesn’t have to be compared..but also…I can relate so much. Somehow I feel like I lost my complete circle of friends already twice, so a bit different
First right after the first meeting, then again before a short “almost”reunion. Now since some time I am trying to find new friends, but feel it’s not time yet or like I might tie up all old endings before moving countries. It’s weird, I always had friends automatically but now..nothing. Maybe a focus of energy, I feel all distractions got taken away in my case. But your friendship still sounds beautiful and sweet, as it is!! Just imagine it would be intense like a 2nd tf, haha, better not
When it comes to twin flame connections, what you are describing is about as normal as water flowing down a river.
It also does occur in normal relationships, but not to this level of intensity.
It’s commonly refered to as “dumper’s guilt” or the feelings of obligation or duty stemming from a desire not to hurt someone who has become a significant part of your life, but is “no longer in it”, so to speak.
To me, it’s clear that you are at an impass. You don’t want to hurt or “betray” your twin flame, but you also want to connect more deeply with this new girl you met.
I can tell you right now though, that this is simply an illusion. Just because you feel this way, it doesn’t necessarily it make it real or truthful.
You are not harming anyone in this situation but yourself. So stop and look at things from a different perspective.
There’s really no reason to feel guilty or ashamed because you are looking to fulfill your own wants and needs!
Because if your twin flame can’t do that, then maybe there is someone else who can!
Nothing else compares. It’s like there is a ceiling with everyone else.
An invisible wall you can’t seem to push past with them. No matter how much you love them, how much time you pour in, or how much effort you give, it doesn’t go as deep as what you have with your twin.
Even when you haven’t seen your twin in months. Even when they’re silent. Even when the rational part of your brain says this other person is actually showing up for you in ways your twin isn’t.
The bond still wins.
It’s not “wrong” to feel this way.
The twin flame connection operates at a frequency no other relationship can reach. It’s built into your soul’s blueprint. You could meet a thousand wonderful people and every single one of them would hit that same invisible ceiling. Because they’re not meant to go where your twin goes.
Your friends and family touch your heart. Your twin touches your soul. Both matter. They just live in different rooms inside you.
