What you’re feeling is totally valid. You both know what this is, but nobody says it out loud. It drives you insane. The TF runner’s perspective gets overlooked a lot. They’re not calmly choosing silence. They’re in total internal chaos. Soul shock hits both twins, but for runners, it drags up suppressed pain, old wounds from childhood at once. Exposed and out of control. Deep fears of rejection and abandonment make the connection terrifying. It cracks walls they’ve built for years. They worry that if you see the real them underneath, you won’t love it.
They blame the pain on the connection itself, not their own unresolved issues. The deeper they care, the harder they run.
Yeah, that silent standoff is maddening. Runners often can’t even explain it to themselves. Fear has to be processed from the inside, no matter how much you want to shake them and just talk it out.