I’m not going to tell you to “send them love and light” because that feels impossible when you genuinely hate someone… even if you also love them.
It isn’t always possible, and I’ve been there (I’m sure many of us have). The push-pullis brutal, and it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or the connection. You absolutely can hate them at points. They can hate you, too. In fact, when twin flames first meet, it’s not always instant sparks of love. Sometimes that energy comes out as hate and the first meeting is very far from romance.
Hating them doesn’t mean they’re not your twin flame. Doesn’t mean they are either.
In fact (before I forget), there was a TV show called Beef with two characters who hated each other, and I laughed so hard when one of the characters literally mentioned the idea of “twin flames” because they were trying to explain why they hated this person so much. Definitely not a twin flame show though… Nothing about that connection was healthy.
The thing is every emotion gets amplified in twin flame connections. Regular relationship anger becomes rage. Regular missing someone becomes can’t-get-out-of-bed depression. The same intensity that makes the highs incredible makes the lows feel like they’re going to kill you. You’re not crazy for feeling contradictory things simultaneously.
The knowing what they’re doing is interesting though. Could be your intuition working overtime, could be actual telepathic bleed-through since you share the same frequency. Twin flames have that energetic cord… whether you want it or not. During my worst separation phases, I’d get random hits of information that later turned out accurate - their emotional state, who they were with, sometimes even specific locations. It pissed me off more because I didn’t want to be connected to someone I was so angry at.
But here’s the real question: is this anger moving you forward or keeping you frozen? Because if it’s the second one, you might need to reassess. Not every intense connection is meant to last forever in physical form.