I’m sure we’ve all heard the “pull” or the “heart pull” but I’m trying to work out if what I think is that pull is really… that. For those who know they’re feeling a pull toward their TF and it’s not just a crush or something, what does it feel like? What do I look for?? Thanks!
The logical side of me hates this. One minute I’m fine, and the next, I have this crazy urge to find out what they’re up to.
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The pull can range from this tiny whisper to full-blown chest pressure. Like with most things on the journey, your experience might be different from mine. It might be a warm, expansive feeling, or it might feel more… explosive. Some people report their heart literally pounding like it might jump out when they’re near their person or even just thinking about them. Pressure, tightness, even pain. Temperature changes are common too - feeling warm when they’re around, cold when they leave.
The waves of emotion can be intense, from overwhelming bliss to grief that feels like someone died even though nobody did.
Well, for starters, some people won’t use the term “pull” to describe it because it’s more of a heart pain. Some do talk about an actual physical pull that they have to fight towards and others are going to use that term in a much more… general sense. I have no doubt there are people with karmics or even just 3D relationships that would describe some kind of “pull” that is just 3D-driven.
A lot of these experiences are going to be pretty unique and varied, so I don’t know if you’re going to get a checklist. You might want to take a look at the conversation on figuring out if they are your twin flame.
You might experience an actual energy field around you. Like the space around your person is different from anyone else. You can tell if it’s them standing behind you or if it’s someone else.
Some have heart palpitations that feel electric, tingling or goosebumps all over their body, dizzy spells when near them, chest pain or what feels like their heart expanding. Some describe it like being on mild psychedelics when they’re together - chakras lighting up, feeling high from the energy alone. The intensity can be so strong that some people have to rule out actual heart problems.
Then you have runners (most often) who are able to discount this kind of physical response as “probably nothing”.
There’s no checklist you can use, I’m afraid.
First of all, see it as a push & a pull. Not just a pull.
When things get intense (which they always will for TFs), instead of clinging to each other like in codependent relationships, you’ll find yourselves energetically repelling. Not because you don’t care or because this isn’t your mirror soul, but because the energy is overwhelming. One person runs, the other chases, and this can cycle and flip and reverse. Maddening, but that’s how we get to the inner work.
When we’re the chaser in separation, we most often feel the pull side of things, but there’s a push element there as well. It’ll manifest as frustration and sometimes even a direct drive to take other areas of life by the horns.
The emotional landscape is complicated. Yes, there’s bliss and this overwhelming love feeling. But there’s also obsessive thoughts that feel totally out of character. People who’ve never been “that person” suddenly find themselves checking social media constantly, unable to focus on anything else. So often we have people who have never thought twice about leaving a relationship and always considered themselves highly independant who can’t imagine being away from this person.
That is what the pull should feel like.
Like a spiritual cattle prod to the chest. That just gets stuck there.
I just realized, the heart pull is that feeling where it makes zero sense logically but something in you is like ‘yes, this is right’ even when your brain is telling you it’s illogical.
For me, it was the synchronicities and telepathic moments that I couldn’t explain away. And this sense of unconditional love that felt different from any crush I’d had before. It might feel different for you than it does for me. Some people just know instantly, others need time to recognize what’s happening.
I get that logical side fighting it. Infatuation stays in your head, but this involves your whole being in ways that don’t make logical sense. When you can’t explain the intensity or why you feel pulled to connect, there’s probably something to it.
It’s physical nausea sometimes. More intense than butterflies - almost like motion sickness mixed with that feeling right before you get on a rollercoaster. So specific and visceral that I know this isn’t just a regular crush thing. Regular attraction doesn’t make you feel like you might throw up.
The logical part of my brain is like ‘this is ridiculous, get it together’ but my body just reacts. Almost like my solar plexus is trying to reach toward them.
The intensity grows over time instead of fading like a regular crush would. That’s what the real pull feels like for me.
With a normal (3D) attraction, you get that initial spark and then it mellows out, right? Even a karmic it might be heavy at first, but eventually fades. With your twin, the pull in my chest has only gotten deeper. Like this magnetic thing that lives right in the center of your ribcage, and it aches when something’s off between you two.
You can’t function properly when there’s tension or distance. Like, I’ll try to focus on anything else, but that feeling in my chest won’t let up until whatever’s wrong gets resolved. Your body physically knows something needs to be fixed and won’t give you peace until it is.
I’d feel warm when they walked in a room, and the second they left I’d get cold. Not emotionally cold, physically cold. My body temperature would literally change.
Try to move on and have a ‘normal’ relationship. If that pulls stops you, that’s how you know.
Sorry if this sounds strange, but the part about being able to tell it’s them standing behind you really resonates with me. I thought I was imagining it at first, but there’s this distinct energetic signature that I can sense even when I’m not looking. It’s not something I experience with anyone else - not friends, not family, not even people I’ve dated before.
I agree there’s no checklist, but I think if you’re asking the question and experiencing things that feel inexplicable, you’re probably already feeling something beyond the ordinary.
The TF pull has that automatic, involuntary quality to it. With a crush, you’re consciously thinking ‘oh I want to talk to them’, but with the pull your body just moves toward them before your brain even catches up. There’s also this physical sensation some people describe, almost like something tugging from the center of your chest, pulling you in their direction even when they’re not physically there. Not painful but… just persistent. My experience, anyway.
And here’s what really threw me: their presence doesn’t always require them to actually BE present. You might suddenly feel this warmth, this fullness, like they’re right beside you even when you’re completely alone. Similar to that sensation when you instinctively know someone’s entered a room behind you, you just FEEL them. Except with a twin flame, that feeling can happen across any distance.
That’s your heart chakra expanding. Sounds like energetic cord activation between your souls.