Most twin flame dynamics have at least some physical separation built in - you go home, you process, you recalibrate. I think I know of one person here on the forum who hasn’t gone through a physical separation in this lifetime and that’s probably because they’ve done it at least once before.
You don’t have that. You’re getting triggered all day and then somehow expected to just… function professionally on top of it. That’s a lot.
The 3D vs 5D thing. Worth remembering, these are states of consciousness, not separate places. In 5D, there’s no separation; you’re always connected through the heart and soul. But 3D is all physical reality - ego, stress, control. Your twin might be firmly parked in 3D consciousness right now and genuinely have no idea what he’s doing on an energetic level.
The DM often seems to understand everything from a 3D perspective, but they’re often operating almost unconsciously in their role. The gap between what they appear to know and what they actually know will drive you up a wall. Or several.
On the stay-or-go question - leaving a job to protect your peace doesn’t mean abandoning the connection. Career changes during twin flame stuff are weirdly common, actually. Someone on another thread was talking about how their whole career went downhill the moment they connected with their TF, and they ended up getting pushed into a completely different direction that eventually served them way better.
Sometimes the universe removes things for your highest good. And sometimes YOU are the one who needs to do the removing (which I think people forget).