I was just thinking about this out of nowhere. I’m normally a hugger, so I just kind of hug people left and right without really thinking about it.
But that was the hug that turned my life upside down. Changed everything I thought I knew. I think we had something in our eyes when we first looked at each other, but when we hugged, it was like we were radiating or something.
How about everyone else?
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I haven’t hugged mine yet. I hope we get an opportunity to do so because I’ve read so much about it. Am kicking myself for giving into my fears and not approaching him at a work event when we’d both been drinking.
When my TF and I hugged again after 22 years apart (we are each other’s first loves that dated and broke up when we were 17) in 2023, neither of us was able to let go. It was the longest hug and it lasted what felt like forever. And when we finally moved apart, there was just this lingering energy between us. Later that night he texted me and said, “Is it weird that I didn’t want to let go?” And I replied, “I didn’t want to either.” Reminiscing about that hug now just made my heart flutter literally 
I’ve seen so many people describe it exactly that way. Radiating.
For the lucky ones, they might fall straight into union. Once they hug, they’ll not leave each other’s arms.
For most of us, the ones who meet in the 3D before we’re ready, it usually brings out soul shock in one of you. That initial contact with your twin flame can be so overwhelming that your whole body starts to recognize something that… your mind just can’t process yet. Spiritual whiplash is a great term for it.
My first hug with my twin… I think I had the same as most. Energy seemed to cluster around specific areas. A lot of people feel it in their chest - heart racing, warmth spreading, this sense of their heart chakra opening or expanding. Others get that electric zing, like a current running through them. The solar plexus area comes up a lot too, especially with skin contact there.
The “coming home” description is probably the most universal thing I’ve seen across this community. Even more than seeing 11:11 on the clock. People use those exact words over and over - like hugging someone for the first time but somehow also the millionth time. That recognition piece seems to hit people really hard. Your body just… knows.
One thing worth mentioning, since we’re sharing and I don’t want anyone judging their experience vs others.
Not everyone has this kind of lightning bolt moment right away. They’re not always madly in love from day 1. I’ve known twin flames who couldn’t stand each other early on; they were constantly complaining about each other. Always seemed to have the other on their mind… must look pretty funny to their friends from the outside. The only thing you don’t see from that early contact is apathy.
So if you feel nothing during the first contact, then I would maybe question if this was the real thing (or maybe something else is going on).
Whether it leaves you both shocked about what just happened or one of you is fighting to get away, I do agree that that first touch can also be the trigger for running. Just too much for the runner to process. Our 3D bodies aren’t always ready for what the soul recognizes.
For me and my TF, time seemed to stop… or at least blur. Felt a bit like a trance state during our first hug. The rest of the room (and everyone in it, for that matter) didn’t exist anymore. The whole world just kind of faded out.
There’s also the whole thing where time seems to stop or blur. People describe going into almost a trance state during that first embrace, like the rest of the room disappeared. The world kind of fades out. That altered state thing seems connected to how big the recognition is - your awareness narrows down to just this one person and everything else becomes background noise.
To be honest, even all the time later when we hug it still makes everything else feel like background noise.
Like this whole journey, responses really do vary from person to person.
Some people cry (often feels like a rite of passage) and others talk about shaking beforehand from anticipation or during from the energy moving through them. Temperature shifts like feeling warmer than natural while they hug (even if it’s just a quick tap) and then cold when they step away.
Yes, for anyone wondering, runners/DMs/the less spiritually aware twin is also aware of this, but they usually frame it differently. Usually, there’s already something there from the eye contact. Then physical contact amplifies whatever was already building. People talk about feeling their energy even before bodies make contact - just being close enough creates a buzz.
Radiating is a good way to describe this. Like warmth or energy emanating outward from the point of contact. Some feel it for extended periods after - not just during the hug but for an hour or more afterward. That lingering sensation seems to be the body processing something it doesn’t have a normal framework for.
Mine seemed innocent at the time; we were all hugging, a quick hello, but then that brief contact rewired everything we both thought we understood about the world.
Felt like a rugby tackle. Physically and spiritually. They’re pretty strong so it almost knocked me over anyway.
I literally sobbed into their shoulder and couldn’t even explain why. It wasn’t sad crying, it was like… release? My body just did it without permission. They held me tighter and I swear I felt their heartbeat sync with mine. The whole world just stopped existing for a moment. I’ve been in relationships before where hugs were just hugs, you know? Even with people I genuinely cared about. But with my tf, there was this sense that we were both suspended in this bubble where nothing else mattered. Like we could’ve stayed there forever and neither of us would’ve pulled away first.
That feeling stays with you. That complete reluctance to let go, that perfect fit that made everything else fade into the background. Even when we’re not together, if I focus, I can feel the echo of their arms around me, so I guess that’s the telepathic touch.
Electric shock. Felt it shoot up my arm and straight into my chest. Thought I was losing my mind honestly. We both pulled back and just stared at each other like “did you feel that too?”
I’d been through hell. The kind of experience that breaks you down to nothing, where you’re fighting just to exist. And when I finally saw him again and we hugged? I couldn’t let go. My arms just wouldn’t release him. Every broken piece of me suddenly clicked back into place. I’d done most of the work surviving and recovering, but that last fragment of my soul that was still raw and bleeding? That hug sealed it up.
It wasn’t even romantic in that moment. I don’t really know what it was. Coming home to yourself through another person, which sounds insane when I type it out, but that’s the only way I can describe it.
When the time is right, it’ll happen. I got to hug mine once before he went into full denial mode and started avoiding me completely. And let me tell you… that hug lives rent-free in my head. It was like coming home after being lost for lifetimes. Now he acts like I’m basically a stranger when we cross paths, but I KNOW he felt it too. You could see it in his face - he looked almost scared by how intense it was.
This is so beautiful! Time means nothing when it comes to twin flames. Your story gives me so much hope
I hadn’t realized I’d been holding my breath my entire life until that moment.
When we hugged, it was like every defense mechanism I’d built since childhood just dissolved. You know how as kids we learn to brace ourselves? To tense up before disappointment hits, to guard our hearts, to make ourselves smaller so we won’t get hurt? I’d been doing that for decades without even knowing it.
But in that embrace, all those protective walls I’d constructed from old wounds and broken trust just fell away. My shoulders dropped. My chest opened. It was the first time I felt safe enough to truly let go of the hypervigilance I’d carried since I was small, always scanning for danger, always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
That hug gave me permission to stop performing, stop protecting, stop pretending. All that childhood tension I didn’t even know I was carrying has just been released.
I hope so! The last time we had a moment together was so intimate and intense, he was practically drowning in my eyes. He reminded me of Puss in Boots from Shrek:
Except he was smiling too. And I had no idea what to do. We bumped into each other in the landing at work and I was paranoid that someone would come through and see. I wanted to hug/touch him but was worried about his reaction especially if there was an electric sensation. And the following day he blanked me and I’ve not seen him since. 
I guess I worry I’ll get in trouble but maybe he’s the same. Perhaps I should just go for it next time.
Thank you. When I reflect on my journey, it does give me hope as well.
Since that reconnection, my TF and I have gone through periods of separation, the recent one being the longest. He disappeared for 10 months since Dec 2024, but reappeared recently on my birthday. We have sorta been in contact since then, off and on. Nothing deep and meaningful, but for now, I guess I’m glad we’re sorta speaking again. He randomly called me last week, and I got a shock. Hearing his voice again, I don’t know why I was laughing. Then he said, “When I heard your voice, I couldn’t help but smile.”
This is exactly what gives me so much hope for everyone on this journey!
Think about it: if a single hug can rewire your entire understanding of the world, imagine what full union does. Every twin flame hug is a promise. The energy knows where it’s headed.
I see where everyone’s coming from, but if the hug didn’t feel earth-shattering, that doesn’t mean the connection isn’t real.
Sometimes the deepest twin flame moments are the quiet ones - the comfortable silence, just being together without needing anything else. We expect dramatic fireworks but that’s not always how it works. Intensity doesn’t equal authenticity.
It took forever to get to that first hug. The buildup made it even more intense, like being a teenager again but somehow worse because you’re supposed to be a grown adult with self-control. The weirdest part for me was feeling like I was hugging myself?? Like I could sense my own arms around them AND their arms around me at the same time.
Wow that’s sounds amazing like hugging yourself! So trippy-good.
Although I haven’t hugged my TF I did once accidentally on purpose knock my arm against his when we were in a room full of people to see if there was any sensation. I think because I hate getting zapped, like when you get out the car on a summer’s day and touch the door and get zapped. Anyway I didn’t feel anything but maybe it didn’t count.
Oh god, yes, the whole ‘time completely stopping’ thing is SO real kind of annoying? Like, you’re just standing there in this person’s arms and suddenly the entire universe decides to hit pause. Every other hug in your life, even the really good ones, feels like you were just going through the motions.
Mine felt like being wrapped in a warm blanket after being cold your entire life. No electricity or drama, just… peace. Complete peace. I remember thinking “oh, there you are” like I’d been waiting without knowing I was waiting.
